Find love the Chinese way!
The most important event in the entire Chinese festive calendar is the Lunar New Year. It begins on February 10 and signifies a fresh start in life and a time for new hopes. For the singles out there, here are some tips for finding love the Chinese way:
1. Declutter. The Chinese are big on doing a thorough spring cleaning before the Lunar New Year, inviting in good luck into the house and the new year. According to renowned Astrologist and Feng Shui expert Ellen Whitehurst, if you want to bring anything new into your life — be that quick cash or a perfect partner — you must address and clear the clutter in your bedroom closet. She warns against wearing torn, tattered, ripped or wrinkly clothes because they speak to a "poverty consciousness." Wearing combinations of red, gold, silver and purple make you a magnet for men.
2. Flower power. Flowers have symbolic and auspicious meanings. The orchid is a symbol of love and fertility, described as "the prince of all that are fragrant." Therefore, you may wish to offer orchids specifically up to deities and ancestors on New Year's Eve and on an altar on the fifteenth day of the Lunar New Year.
3. Love letters. Love is given an added boost in the form of love letters, which are little scrolls or folded into fourths to look like unfolded Chinese fans. The embossed design on the edible, circular wafer suggests the secret code between lovers. The round shape means "satisfaction" and connotes success in one's cycle of life. So eat some love letters and set the intention to attract love this Lunar New Year.
4. Orange luck. Whitehurst, author of bestselling book Make This Your Lucky Day, also suggests the use of oranges. On the fifteenth day of Chinese New Year (which will also be a night of a Full Moon), get one big, juicy orange. Holding the orange in both hands, close your eyes and visualize yourself getting married to your perfect partner and mate. Anytime that night, throw the orange into any body of moving water while maintaining your vision and your intent. Allow the flow of the waters carry the orange off with your wishes, and some day soon, your true love will appear.
5. Love bubbles. In this exercise recommended by Whitehurst, you will need a bottle of bubbles. Happy Chinese New Year. Visualize yourself with your perfect partner. You could be kissing or strolling along a city street holding one another tight. As soon as you have your scenario set, begin blowing bubbles — the bigger the better. "See" these bubbles bringing your message to the god of marriage and believe that your request will be answered.
Give these a try and let me know how it goes!
Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia and beyond. For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com.