The Benefits Of Platonic Unconditional Love


Love: The Benefits Of Platonic Unconditional Love
Can diving in unconditionally help your non-romantic relationships with your friends?

Non-romantic unconditional love is divine, deliberate, and desirable, and needs to be nurtured in order to grow. It can be nurtured by giving other people love without wanting anything in return. It means choosing to love someone without imposing limits, boundaries or guidelines. It is living authentically.

But one cannot live authentically and nurture an intimate relationship until she learns to give. Think "Give and it will be given back to you." I am blessed to enjoy intimate non-romantic unconditional love relationships with four special women, my Best Friends Forever. Our intimacy is nurtured because I trust in the joy of knowing that each of my BFFs will do anything for me — and I will do anything for them. We love unconditionally and tell each other the truth. When the truth hurts, we console each other and through tears we encourage each other with positive affirmations.

Each friend is generous with her time and attention to me. We pray for each other. We know that phone calls anytime day or night are OK. I get staunch support in building a "people helping" business that is also a ministry. We share a commitment to laugh out loud, even if a situation seems hopeless. Unconditional love means we need to laugh. Laugh a lot. It's the key to remaining sane. Bill Cosby, the comedian, said, "Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it."

Unconditional love is deliberate. We create genuine relationships by talking, listening, caring, knowing, serving, trusting, and relating to others we care about with intensity and purpose. Creating harmonious relationships take time and require genuine energy to deliberately forgive freely, offer kindness, and be helpful, considerate and generous.

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