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Mindfulness: The Art of Cultivating Resilience

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When dealing with life's realities, mindfulness will help you be resilient to the situations.

Undeniably, sooner or later, we all have to deal with life's realities—those hard surprises and "unknowns" that can literally change everything in less than a nanosecond.

Imagine you've just been fired. Many of us would react to this situation in at least some of the following ways:

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"I'm terrified."

"I should have seen this coming."

"I'll never find another job in this economy."

"Am I going to be homeless?"

"I'm a failure."

Reactions like these reflect a fear-based survival framework for viewing the situation, whereby we filter the external facts of what's happening through the internal lens of what we feel (our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and body sensations). In this way, our fear creates our reality, locking us in anger, powerlessness, and blame. Relationships: Why Do You Attack and Blame?

Mindfulness: A Tool for Re-contextualizing and Reframing

"People are not afraid of things, but of how they view them."- Epictetus

Although it's understandable why we might react from fear when facing the prospect of losing our job, or other challenging situations, mindfulness is a powerful tool that offers us the opportunity to make a radical shift in orientation.

Mindfulness is the practice of bringing our awareness to what we are experiencing in the present, both internally and externally, without judgment (Kornfield, 2009). It is a wake-up call to become conscious of the ways we perceive and respond to life's situations. When we live mindfully, we shift our entire ground of being.

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Here's a traditional, easy-to-follow exercise to help develop your mindfulness during difficult situations (Klau, 2009). Mindfulness takes time to develop. It is an ongoing process. Be kind and compassionate to yourself as you follow these instructions.

  • Sit in a quiet room where you won't be disturbed.
  • Close your eyes and focus your attention on your breath.
  • It's natural for your attention to become distracted. When that happens, simply return to your breath.
  • While focusing on your breath, allow your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and body sensations to enter your awareness as you perceive the external situation. Meditate Your Way to Inner Peace
  • Now ask yourself: What are the facts of the situation? What are my thoughts, feelings, beliefs and body sensations? How am I responding?

With practice, this exercise can bring us to our calm, reflective center. This safe-haven, in which we can rest and see more clearly, holds and contains everything arising for us in the present. From here, it is possible to deconstruct, re-contextualize and reframe our original fear-based feelings and reactions, honoring and embracing them without being their victims.

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