Should We Live Together Before We Get Married?

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Should We Live Together Before We Get Married? [EXPERT]
Madison is not sure if she should move in with her fiancé or marry him before graduation.

Madison is an engaged, 21-year-old with three semesters left in college. She currently has a dilemma because her parents think she should wait to get married until she graduates from college, and they also disapprove of couples living together before marriage. She and her fiancé will be completing their final year of college at the same school, and when they are finally in the same city, she doesn't want two sets of temporary living arrangements for practical reasons.

She wonders, "Do we live together for the few months before the wedding even if I haven't graduated yet or should we just get married early?" Madison is clearly trying to figure out a way to keep her parents happy and still do what she wants to do. However, there doesn't seem to be a way to satisfy everybody.

She then adds the complication of wanting to get married in December. She's worried about which December: the one before or the one after she graduates. Living Together Before Marriage: Is It A Good Idea?

To put it bluntly, she knows that in order to please her parents she should go through the inconvenience of living separately for a few months. She doesn't want to do that so she needs to figure out which option will upset her parents the least. She also doesn't want to take responsibility for making a choice that will upset her parents.

It's clear that she and her fiancé will spend a great deal of time together, no matter what their official living arrangements are. Then the question becomes whether to avoid the truth by practicing "don't ask don't tell" with her parents or to simply making a choice and hoping her parents forgive her in the future. Why Marriage Doesn't Always Equal Happily Ever After

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