There are a million men in the world that could be a great “fit” for you.
There are a million men in the world that could be a great “fit” for you. Dating online gives you the opportunity to choose a partner who is truly the right “fit” for you. All you need to do is choose one of them. Follow these four simple steps.
Step # 1: Love Yourself
Your first step is to love yourself and love your life. You have to believe in love and believe you are worthy of love. Make a list of all the qualities that you love about yourself and the things that you love to do. The list will remind you of all the things that are phenomenal about you and if you want to do online dating, it will help you put together a profile that is authentic and demonstrates your best qualities. Then, treat yourself with the love and respect that you deserve. Make yourself your priority. Spend time “dating yourself” and doing the things that you love. Do whatever it takes for you to feel good about yourself. When you are happy and you truly love yourself, you will radiate a positive energy that is magnetically attractive. If you truly love yourself, you will attract a partner who truly loves you.
Step # 2: Get Clear about the Type of Relationship You Want
Your next step is to get 100% clear about the kind of relationship that you want, the qualities your partner will possess and how you want to feel in the relationship. Make a detailed list of 100 qualities you want in a partner. Get very specific about how you and your partner will “fit” together. You do need to specify exactly what you want in a very detailed way. Don’t leave anything out. It is not about finding a person with a sense of humor; it is about finding a person who shares your sense of humor. Then, prioritize your list. Get clear about the top 10 qualities that are most important to you. These are your “non-negotiables”. And you have to be really honest with yourself about what you don’t want. Identify 5-10 qualities or life circumstances that you do not want. You have to identify your “deal breakers“ and you have to believe in yourself enough to walk away from a potential date that has one of your “deal breakers”. You are looking for a person who can really share your life with you. You are looking for a genuine good “fit” between two people. You are not trying to make yourself fit into someone else’s life.
Step 3: Date and Have Fun
Try online dating or meeting men in places where you know you will have things in common. If you have tried online dating before and you haven’t gotten the results you wanted, maybe it is time to take a fresh approach. If you are going to do online dating, first, you will need to decide which online dating service you will use. I recommend using a well respected site that does personality matching for compatibility. Then, you will need to post a profile. Post attractive, recent pictures. Then create a profile that truly reflects you. To attract a match that you would truly be happy with, you have to be 100% authentically yourself. Be the best version of yourself, but don’t pretend to be anything that you are not. Make sure to include your best qualities and the things you genuinely love to do. Don’t try to be what you think “men” want, create a profile that specifically targets the type of man that that has the qualities you want in a relationship. For example, if you want a man that shares your world view and you are into the Law of Attraction, mention that you are into the Law of Attraction. Don’t be afraid that saying that might scare some men off. Instead, know this will attract the right men to you. Be selective and screen out people that have your “deal breakers”. If you agree to meet someone, make sure you do it in a public place, drive yourself and never drink too much on a date. Finally, remember, it is a date not an interview! Have fun, relax and enjoy.
Step 4: Choose to be Happy in Love
You have to approach this whole thing in a positive, fun way. Believe with every fiber of your being that you are going to attract the love that is right for you. And believe that the person you hope to find is also looking to find someone just like you! Your job in all this is choosing the right “fit” for you. Keep on dating and having fun. Focus on the most important qualities you are looking for in a partner and don’t compromise and go out with a man who has one of your “deal breakers”. Never try to make it work with the wrong man. Choose the right man. Never forget that there are many men out there who could be a great “fit” for you and that you are the one who will be choosing one of these men. Being happy is a choice. Choose to be happy in a positive, loving relationship that is the right “fit” for you!
Many of you are just getting started with dating and others have been dating a long time. If you have been dating online and you haven’t gotten the results you want, maybe it is time that you took a fresh approach. Whether you are just starting out or you are starting over, it’s time to get a brand new perspective on dating!
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Kelley Chappell, PhD
Kelley Chappell, PhD is an author, an award winning professor of psychology, an international speaker and a dating and relationship coach for women with 20+ years of experience. Her scientific research on relationships has been presented at International Conferences and published in International journals.
Her mission is to inspire and empower women to love themselves, love their lives and be truly happy in love. Her book, Happy in Love: A Woman's Step by Step Guide to Love, Attraction, Dating and Relationships draws on the Law of Attraction, Positive Psychology and the Science of Happiness. She is the founder of The Happy in Love Club and the creator of the Happy in Love Monthly Audio Series. Her program, Using the Law of Attraction to Attract the Love of Your Life will be available soon. Visit her at www.HappyInLove.com.