Girl Crush: What I Love About The Amazing Lena Dunham


Girl Crush: What I Love About The Amazing Lena Dunham
The "Girls" creator and star embodies more than just another pretty face.

Why is it so surprising that Lena Dunham's Vogue cover was airbrushed? It's not, of course. What is actually surprising is that this edgy, unique, quirky, eccentric, female talent is on the cover of Vogue at all. Far from model-thin, she has this beautiful face that someone you know might have, not the standard beauty of a Hollywood actress.

You don't have to be twenty-something to find Dunham inspiring. These are my takeaways:

  • "Some shit is just too ridiculous to engage," she Tweeted about this whole Vogue controversy. In other words, don't sweat the small stuff. It may take a few deep, cleansing breaths and a good talk with a girlfriend to realize it's small stuff, but try to figure it out.
  • Love your body. Or at least try to. A few extra pounds is okay. It's okay to eat because eating feels good. Eating is social. It's ok to have dessert and bare legs.
  • Show off your tattoos. You did not go through all that pain to hide them, or to hide that piercing that makes your mother cringe.
  • Embrace your inner obsessive. With a history of OCD, Dunham clearly uses her attention to detail to fuel her exceptional vision. Your inner obsessive is also really useful for getting things done (see using it for running marathons).
  • Turn lemons into lemonade (or art). Use your painful history to move forward. Whether you write about it, as Dunham discusses in her interview with Claire Danes, or use it to fuel some other forward movement, it's part of you so embrace it. 
  • Work as much as you want. Like this notoriously hard worker, spend as much time as you can pursuing your passion.
  • Create your own style. Whether it's with clothes, makeup or art, do what you love and don't worry about crimes of fashion.
  • Adopt a pet. If you're going to get a pet, it's a good deed. It's kind, loving and humane.
  • Do things for your friends. Maybe you can't give them well-deserved jobs, but there are so many other ways to help and give to your friends.
  • Forgive your friends. Okay, this one is probably just my take from "Girls." Everyone makes mistakes. It takes love and acceptance to forgive but it's worth it. While you're at it, you can forgive your ex-boyfriends, too.

I'm guessing Dunham does not spend hours a day in the gym or at the dermatologist maintaining her image. With or without the airbrush, Dunham's got that amazing beauty and confidence (in a self-effacing way, of course) that can only come from within. She is truly an inspiration for women of all ages, shapes and sizes. 

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