When I went to college I felt estranged from my parents.
The only way we could communicate was with a landline, which I had to stand in line to use. Now I can shoot texts back and forth with my son, with links to interesting news bits, YouTube videos or music, and pictures of the cats doing dumb things while looking cute.
I get that you want to do things your own way, perhaps what you consider the "right" way. I completely understand. But there are some anachronisms in the 21st century that are just plain annoying, even to a dinosaur like me. Making them will affect your relationships, dating and work life, and prevent effective communication.
Pretty please heed my advice and avoid these nine 21st century faux pas:
1. Don't Leave Voicemail Messages
If you don't know this by now, here's the thing: No one under 35 listens to them. And if you do get a call back, don't expect the person to know what your message said because, and I hate to be redundant, no one listens to voicemail.
2. Email With Caution
I'm not sure what the age cut off is on this, but millennials only read their email every leap year, if that often. Send a text. If that's beyond you, it's probably time to learn. This is how the world works now.
3. Don't Text A Landline
If you are brave enough to dabble in texting, don't text a landline. Yes, there are still a few. Old geezers have them and professional offices (like mine) also have them. That's why you didn't get a response—you texted a real phone.
4. Don't Call Or Text Repeatedly
If you must call, please, not repeatedly. Yes, they got your call. Occasionally, people are too busy to respond immediately. Give it a rest.
5. Snail Mail = Not The Best
Stop sending things to your college student child, grandchild, niece, etc. They don't check their mailboxes. If you must, alert them with a text to check their box for something from you — if they think think it's probably food or money, they will check it.
6. Don't Expect Handwritten 'Thank You' Notes
Really, don't expect anything in writing. Not even wedding invitations. Millennials don't know where to buy stamps or how to use them.
7. Use The Digital Gift Registry
With weddings, new babies, showers and so on, unless you're giving money, get the people what they want. It's not rude. They had them back in the day. They just weren't on-line.
8. Don't Buy Maps (Use The App)
Use your GPS. It's on your phone. It's not hard. And it saves trees. No smartphone? Print out directions. It uses less paper than those bloody maps you can never fold properly. You can reuse it to print your next map, or whatever.
9. Get A Smartphone ASAP
Come on. Join the party. My father is 94 and reads on his Kindle (with the added benefit of being able to make the print super-big). It's a modern convenience like the flush toilet.
Judith Tutin, Phd, ACC, is a licensed psychologist and certified life coach. Connect with her at drjudithtutin.com where you can request a free coaching call to bring more passion, fun and youth to your life.