What's the key to a successful relationship?
Sometimes it's the simple things that are taken for granted or we think are unimportant that hold the key to a healthy, loving and happy relationship.
Here are ten tips on how to make your relationship last:
- Without quality time together, your relationship will not survive. Schedule at least half an hour every night in your calendars for each other. Also schedule at least one day a month where the two of you spend time exclusively together outside the home doing something fun together (not housework or maintenance related)
- You both want to feel secure within the relationship. To create security, compromise and a balance of give and take is necessary from both of you. Open communication is vital and no subject should be off limits for discussion in a healthy relationship.
- The little things that first attracted you to each other can become annoying habits over the years. You both must learn to love your partner, irritating habits and all. My husband does not like the way I load the dishwasher. I don't take it personally, if he wants to readjust the dishes, I am fine with that. It does not annoy him, he just prefers to do it a different way and accepts that I do it my way. Don't try to change your spouse into something they're not and recognize the characteristics that were present when you did fall in love with them.
- Money is key contributor to relationship failure with many couples. Why? Money is the most difficult conversation for people to have. People are afraid of talking about money, about budgets, about financial planning, etc. For the relationship to work, you must learn how to get comfortable with talking about money and spending. You should meet at least once a month to review your outgoing expenses and income as a couple for the long term health of your relationship. Agreeing to a budget is important so that you both can accomplish your financial goals together.
- Communication is vital to all healthy relationships. Listen to each other - hear each other out without interrupting. Talking things over can help you to both have a deeper understanding of each other.
- Sex is important to create connection and intimacy in a marriage. Life gets busy and it is easy to push sex and intimacy aside. It is critical to address your sex and intimacy needs with your partner, schedule time for it, and do what you can to bring intimacy back into your relationship. Remember talking about sex and intimacy is vital to the health and sustainability of your relationship.
- Maintain a balance of dependence and independence with each other. Do not depend on your partner 100% of the time because that can be suffocating to your partner. On the other hand, don't allow your partner to think you don't need them, by going or doing things without them.