4 Phrases NEVER To Use In Your Online Dating Profile

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... because there's nothing worse than a generic online dating profile.

As part of my job as dating expert, I periodically get online and read online dating profiles, both men's and women's. I rarely come across a profile that impresses me.

Sure, I'm a tough crowd. That's my job. But while some online dating profiles suck and need to be deleted immediately, most are actually quite decent, except for one common problem: they're generic.

If you're online and not getting many emails from men or the emails you do receive are from men who don't interest you at all, it's likely because your profile is too generic and doesn't give men a sense of who you really are. As I discuss in Find The Love of Your Life Online, if you don't convey your unique self in your profile, it's much harder for Mr. Right to find you.

What does it mean to be "generic?"

Generic means you have no clear "brand," that you're just the everyday girl in brown plain wrapping. Sure, you won't annoy or turn men off with a generic brand, but you won't get them clamoring to meet you either. Generic is boring and you're not boring. You're unique and interesting and the right guy is looking for your brand of woman.

If you want to succeed online, you need to highlight what's unique about you, what makes you different from other women. But often, people do the opposite when dating online — they hide anything unusual about themselves, afraid of reducing their number of possible suitors. This "trying to appeal to everyone" strategy will backfire. Instead, you want to appeal to your kind of men.

Here are some examples of generic statements I often see in online dating profiles and how to fix them.

1. "I enjoy traveling." A lot of people do. Where specifically have you traveled? Which destinations do you want to visit in the future? There's a big difference between someone who enjoys a relaxing cruise to the Caribbean and someone who loves to explore a third world country on a budget.

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