The Real Diet for Overweight People


The Real Diet for Overweight People
This article represents an innovative perspective to break through impasses in weight loss.

Just about everyone struggles with some level of issues around eating and gaining or losing weight, leading many to experiment with various diets in order to control their weight. Most of the time this leads to an endless roller coaster of losing a certain number of pounds and then seeing the weight come roaring back slowly or sometimes with great speed.. The reason for this is that we can use our will power for periods of time to physically lose weight, but often we fail to realize the changes that real weight loss asks of our attitudes, feelings and behaviors.

To really lose weight where it is not merely posturing has to be accomplished on all four levels; mental body, emotional body, physical body and spiritual body. Leaving any of the bodies out of the equation will leave a crack that can open a door to relapsing down the road. So it is essential that whatever way you decide to approach weight loss, that there is a yes from each of the bodies so that you enter into it with a real agreement from head to toe. So if starting a diet seems all right physically, but doesn’t address your emotional needs, it will be only a matter of time before your emotional body will be screaming to end this so called diet. To sustain a real weight loss involves a willingness to go through a series of steps similar to peeling an onion. Real is defined as being able to go through the numerous stopping points.


Each stopping point will ask you to attend to the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual qualities inherent in that step and to not skip over any of the steps. Here the focus will be on the process of losing weight, not merely the end result. Many people find the idea of steps to be too slow and they choose to ignore this process and rush to the end goal. The image that I work with is called a weight loss map and it is made up of a series of concentric circles. Each circle is separated by ten pounds as a meaningful step. So if you weigh 240 lbs. your next circle would be at 230 lbs. Of course you can also use this map to support weight gain by simply going from the inside out and reversing your direction.

Create a weight loss map
Once you are able to understand that this program deals with small changes in your attitude and behaviors, not problems, I’d like to invite you to create your own weight loss map starting with your existing weight. On the outside circle Draw a large circle and place the number of your highest weight on that circle. All around that circular line you are to put on it all of the behaviors that are needed to support that number. One example would be to write no self- esteem and self- negative talk. Then make another circular line inside that and write on that line a number that is ten pounds less perhaps 240 pounds. Between the 240 pound line and the 230 pound line you are to place all of the behaviors, feelings, and thoughts that you would need to support you and allow you to go from 240 to 230. It needs to reflect a slight change from the 240- pound line. You are to continue making new lines ten pounds apart until you have a circle for your goal weight whatever it is. Each of the ten pound increments represents a stopping point that you can only move past if you integrate the necessary behaviors contained within those circles.

This article was originally published at The Relationship Doctor Bruce Derman. Reprinted with permission.
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