Being mostly single (with a few short term boyfriends for no more than 2 months in between) since my divorce has been mostly by choice. Since then, I've moved on and I'm actually writing this sitting with my ex-husband's wife, their new baby and my son. Life sure is funny.
My ex and I shared a house, that he later he shared with his new bride. Recently they bought a new house and during the move discovered a few boxes of musty old books in the upstairs closet. I opened the boxes and to my surprise, had gleefully rediscovered my kissing list, the old one anyway. I've kissed alot of frogs, here's a funny list. Can you relate to these horrible kisses?
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After I moved out of the homestead, I left the 120 Sheets notepad of rainbow colored lined paper (or the Sheets Fuilles with Assorted Colors) behind, but not all of the memories. Upon opening the notebook with the graphical artist palette on the cover, it flooded me with memories of boyfriends and kissing, (and things at the time I thought were love) seemed to have a light shining on it that was brighter than the light that gleans when I open my MacBook Pro to update the current man list.
This smooching registry begun after my 7th grade boyfriend and I shared our first real kiss at my birthday party behind my parent's couch. I made a promise to myself to write down everyone. I wanted to keep good track of all the boys I kissed before, loved before, and I still do. Now the old list has been returned to it's proper owner and I will excitedly marry the two lists together.
Since I was a 5-year-old in kindergarten spinning in circles by the set of half way buried truck tires in the ground and pretending to be Wonder Woman, I've been boy crazy, and I have a list to prove it. I'm certainly no Ania Lisewska with a goal of sleeping with 100,000 people either.
The goal was set for myself, when I decided to help singles on their search for love. I set the goal of going on at least 100 dates with 100 different men. I have more than exceeded my goal and did this for myself and to learn about men. If you're ready to move on past your old breakup check this out.
I have met some weird men, tall-dark-and-handsome men, sweet men, clingy men, men with bad breath, and men who met me instead of being at the hospital for their mom’s kidney stone surgery. Even though none of these men turned out being my partner for more than a date or two, I appreciate every one of them and I learned something about men, women our connections and our disconnections.
I was talking about my list with one of my best friends. He was going to have a hook up a few years ago that wasn’t serious, and then she said, "Before we shag, can you tell me your surname? I promised myself that I would know every man’s last name that I slept with." He gladly gave up his name for what would shortly ensue.
Do you have a list of the men you’ve kissed? Women you’ve kissed? Slept with? I would love to hear about them! Share your kissing stories here with me for an upcoming project about kissing!
My kissing list doesn't have everyones last name, but the old list was the kissing list. But sometimes a kiss is more intimate than sex. On the soon-to-be-combined lists, there is more than one John, more than one Chris and more than one Tom; and there is even one guy who I so endearingly named the guy at the party wearing the red shirt. Those were the early years when I was labeled as the kissing bandit.
I'm turning 40. I'm single. I'm happy and I’m still boy crazy. But now I'm more of a dating bandit. I still love to learn about women and men. Especially the men. They’ are so different than us. They are usually taller, are really good at completing tasks and picking up heavy air conditioners.
If all of the people in the world could see the beauty in our differences, embrace them all and learn the art of kissing, the world would be a much better place. If you are ready to have an awesome relationship, contact me here!
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