Even if you don’t know exactly how to define it, everyone understands what a personal vibe is. It is that feeling you get about a person when you meet them, and it often has very little with what is said.
For example, you may be naturally drawn to a guy who seems to be high-energy and fun-loving. Likewise, you may be repelled by a guy who comes off as creepy. You may not know exactly why you feel the way you do, but your feelings are undeniable.
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Women are the same way. Some women give off good vibes that attract men, while other women give off negative vibes that lead men to believe they want to be left alone. Understanding the type of vibe you are giving off and why will help you in attracting a man.
The number one cause of bad vibes in women in low self-esteem and an overall lack of confidence.The “good guys” will not be drawn to women who give off these negative vibes. However, the wrong guys may seek out women with low self-esteem because they are often easy prey.
Sadly, this creates a cycle that perpetuates the low self-esteem and negative vibes.
Additionally, women with low self-esteems often put down the other women around them in an attempt to boost their own egos. This type of behavior increases the negative vibe you give off to people you meet.
The good news is that you can change the vibe you are giving off when you meet new people. The first thing you need to do is become aware of when you start having negative thoughts about yourself and others.
The second thing you need to do is stop yourself as soon as those thoughts start filling your mind. For example, when you go out, you may be use to scanning the room and deciding you aren’t nearly as attractive as the other women around you. This affects the way you will act. Instead, stop comparing yourself to others. Repeat in your mind over and over again that you are attractive and you are there to have fun.
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Men are more attracted to women who give off a laid-back, care-free vibe. Although at first, you might be “faking” a positive vibe, if you practice your new positive vibe long enough, it will become a part of who you are.
Although conversation is important, attracting a man has more to do with your vibe, which includes attitude and body language. For more tips on attracting a man, CLICK HERE to get your copy of the ebook Girl Gets Ring.