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Twenty-One Ways to Get Off the Crazy Busy Train


Being productive isn’t the same as being busy.

When asked how you are, do you answer "busy"? it your life is just CRAZY Busy?  Then you wonder why you're tired, stressed, and overwhelmed? When we choose Busy as our lifestyle, we inherently diminish the quality of our lives and often sacrifice our health. I personally discovered that when I slowed down, I could find joy in the tiniest of moments of living.

I hate to break it to you, kitten, but "Busyis an addiction and like any addict, quitting our drug of choice isn’t easy.

In our modern society, darling, you are going to have to consciously choose, sometimes daily, not to hop back on the Crazy Busy Train.

I know it's easier said than done, so I'm sharing twenty-one tools to help you ditch Busy as Your Lifestyle:

  1. Get clear on what your real desires are. Being clear on what you desire means you’re also clear on what you don’t want.
  2. Identify your roles in life to help identify your priorities.
  3. Create a vision (and  a plan) for your life. When you create a vision, you can more easily discern what you want, what works, and frankly, what isn’t.
  4. Don’t allow yourself to fall into the Busy Trap the moment your feet hit the floor. Instead, spend fifteen minutes each evening preparing for the day ahead. Yes, this means supportive bedtime routines.
  5. Play with the “Perfectly Imperfect Day” activity to help you define what you want your daily life to look and feel like.
  6. Make sure you are clear on your values so that you can behave in accordance with them.
  7. Define non-negotiable standards for living your life.
  8. Put your goals on paper. When we commit to writing down our goals, we are more apt to follow-through.
  9. Regularly review your goals to make sure you’re staying on track.
  10. Take a hard look at your calendar. Review what’s on the schedule in the coming months. Consider block scheduling, which means you bulk similar activities into the same time periods to help channel your energy.
  11. Block off time to pursue your passions – be it writing, reading, creating art, working out, cooking.
  12. Learn that No is a complete sentence.
  13. Create a meal plan because being well fed makes it easier to resist the call of Busy. What we nourish our bodies with allows us to nourish our hearts and souls as well.
  14. Make quality sleep a priority. You need at least seven hours. Do the math and make it happen.
  15. Don’t charge your phone in your bedroom. In fact, remove as many electronics from the bedroom as possible. Otherwise, you’re setting yourself up to be busy before bed, the moment you get up, and for some, when you wake in the middle of the night. Remove thy temptations.
  16. If you are in a relationship, create a vision with your partner on your ideal shared life. Make decisions according to that vision.
  17. Are you a parent? Limit children to no more than two extracurricular activities at a time. This can feel challenging, but it allows for real family time. Too many parents over-schedule their kiddos and spend every evening and weekend running to and fro. It stresses everyone out!
  18. Whether you are partnered, single parenting or have a larger brood under your roof, create a household calendar so that planning can be done with everyone in mind. It’s a great way to educate our kids on how to manage their time.
  19. Check in with yourself on a weekly basis. I know for anyone in a busy lifestyle taking time out for a review feels undoable and frivolous, however, it allows you to get your head above water and plan your life instead of reacting.
  20. Commit to taking a full day off from all things electronic. Yes, your phone, your tablet, your computer… No email. No Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or Periscope. You can begin by doing it a half-day if necessary, but taking this break from electronics will help you connect to yourself and loved ones.
  21. And the most important tool I can share with you is that you must make peace with the fact that you are worthy of being loved and accepted for exactly who you are. Being Busy will never prove your worth to anyone. Love is your birthright.

Though it will feel challenging to step off the treadmill and not medicate ourselves with the Busy Drug, I promise that it’s worth it. Because loving your every day life is where the real value in living is. And frankly, darling, you are worth it.

Debra Smouse is a life coach and self-admitted Tarnished Southern Belle who believes in your need to actively CREATE the kind of life you desire. Connect with her at, on Facebook and Twitter.

This article was originally published at DebraSmouse.Com. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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