Deborah Chelette-Wilson (LPC,NCC)
Sometimes you have to find a plateau so you can clearly see where you have been, where you are, and where you want to go…..
Hello, my name is Deborah Chelette-Wilson. I have to admit when I was a teen and thinking about my life I didn’t envision what has become my mission. I didn’t sit down and make it a goal to accomplish by following a plan. My mission began in the fertile ground of my childhood stresses and traumas. Those experiences, some known and some frozen in time and space, have thawed along my healing journey. I wanted to understand why I felt like a ping-pong ball aimlessly going from one thing to another. I wanted to know how to fill the hole of emptiness and shame that lived inside of me. I wanted to know what hid underneath the eruptions of anxiety and fear that crept over me like a dark blanket threatening to smother me. I wanted to know why I reacted from rage at those I loved. I wanted to know why I couldn’t maintain success at work, in my finances, in relationships, and in my creativity. I cried out to the Universe to show me what to do. My prayers were answered and my healing journey began, sometimes with me kicking and screaming. I share my story in the book Woman on the Edge: A Journey Toward Soul-fulness.
Through my process I have dedicated my life and aliveness to advocate for a more humane and mature world for children, beginning with the child in me. My advocacy has grown to include helping hurting adults in children’s lives who, despite their best efforts, pass on humanity’s intergenerational legacy of stress and trauma. Our 21st century, with our technological advances, has brought new stresses to our lives. These new stresses are taking a toll on our health, inhibiting our ability to connect emotionally with each other, and leaving too many children behind economically, educationally, emotionally, and psychologically. My book Finding His Wings is a children's story about a little butterfly who, with the help of new friends, to move forward from victim, to survivor to thriver.
I was a later bloomer, beginning college in my 30’s. I finished in 1991 with a Master’s Degree in Human Relations through the College of Liberal Studies at Oklahoma University in Norman, Oklahoma. I then began working on my licensure as a Professional Counselor in Oklahoma, but in 1994 my husband retired from the Army and we moved to his home town in Texas. I was fortunate to find a job in the dropout prevention program of a local junior college. In 1998, I completed my studies and became a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Texas.
I have been privileged to experience a diverse array of work settings, which have included:
Rural Fire Fighter and EMT-A
Emergency Room Tech
Co-Founder of Caring for Kids
Youth Services Coordinator for a dropout prevention program
Community Mental Health Therapist
Administrative Assistant, and Secretary
All of these experiences and others have given me a unique perspective –especially the impact of stress, trauma, attachment, and relationships on our ability to regulate our emotions through the maize of our ever-changing 21st century lives.
Early childhood experiences create an intricate web of connections that create a blueprint for relationships, both good and ill, that we take with us into adult life and the workplace. (www.deborahchelette-wilson.com)
Trauma has been my focus and expertise. Beyond my degree I have continued to increase to my knoweldge and continue my own healing through trainings from the Trauma and Loss Institute in Michigan and The Post Institute adding depth and a new understanding of stress, trauma, attachment, and relationships.
My work has and continues to challenge me personally and professionally. I live what I teach. Each day brings opportunities to deepen my practice of living from love rather than fear. I am excited to share my experiences and knowledge with parents and professionals so they can bring healing to hurting children and within themselves. Through the understanding and practical applications of this model we learn to reflect, relate and regulate our stresses so we create an energetic island of safety, which we now know is essential, in helping children with challenging behaviors. Without calm, centered and sensitive adults children cannot heal. Many times this means that adults must look within and heal their stresses and traumas, first. I am especially sensitive to the stresses and traumas women carry hidden in their hearts, keeping them locked in old patterns, instead of living lives of their hopes and dreams. My work is shifting now to focus on helping women integrate their traumas and move forward beyond just surviving and getting through the day to connecting and creating their dreams and thriving. I love coaching women to find their voices and grow to challenge their fears and walk through them to reaching their goals and connecting with their soul-ful womanness. (Woman on the Edge: A Journey Toward Soul-fulness and Releasing Her Voice, A Novel)
If you are looking for someone who has challenged herself to integrate her traumas, find her voice and claim a life of thriving growth, then you need look no further. If you are ready to move forward in your life then I am the coach for you.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
Deborah Chelette-Wilson is an expert in the field of stress, trauma, attachment and relationships. Deborah's life work is helping people replace fear and unhappiness with compassion and love. Website: www.deborahchelette-wilson.com
Spiritual, but no affiliation
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