Listen with your heart and let go of the need to say anything.
Welcome to my 7-Part Series, 7 Secrets To Mastering Communication
SECRET #2 - Compassion
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.”
~ Dalai Lama XIV
Compassion means, “I understand and I get you.” It means I’m walking alongside you, not necessarily in your in your shoes because I cannot truly know what you are experiencing. However, I can intuitively feel what you are feeling, see what you are seeing and hear what you are hearing as if through your eyes, ears and heart. It means, I’m here for you and I listen generously, with my heart more than with my ears.
Empathy goes right along with compassion. Sudden loss, suffering and sadness are obvious moments where we feel compassion for another person. Yet, in our daily lives and all of our relationships, there are many other less obvious but perhaps equally dramatic situations for someone where compassion is still what is needed for greater understanding, friendship and human kindness. Recognizing these cases is important because more often than not, the other person will want compassion and may not even know that. They not dare or know how to say, “I just need you to listen. Would you be willing to do that for me?”
Here are some common but less obvious examples where compassion may be needed.
- Cultural differences can be stressful and challenging to a relationship. It’s often easy to blame misunderstandings on cultural differences, when in fact it is often our expectations and the lack of effective communication around the impact of those cultural differences that is the culprit.
- Transitions such as job loss, moving house, changes in health, life-style changes or empty-nest syndrome, financial security, relationships.
3 Strategies For Bringing More Compassion Into Your Relationships
- Listen with your heart.
- Thank the other person for sharing their feelings and remind them that you are here to receive their emotions in a safe way, without judgment, opinions and suggestions for feeling better or trying to fix them or the situation..
- Then be quiet. So often, just hearing our pain spoken with our own voice is enough to dispel heartache, nip potential misunderstanding in the bud, shift our energy and gain clarity.
If you're frustrated at not being heard, feel like your needs are not being met or you say "Yes" when you really want to say "No" then you should definitely contact me today about my innovative online Compatibility Index. In less than 60 minutes, I can tell you exactly why you are struggling in your conversations and give you tips and strategies for improving communication.
To your compassionate communication,