Are You Compatible With Your Spouse? Find Out


Are You Compatible With Your Spouse? Find Out
Take the ten question test to determine if you and your spouse are sexually compatible.

The Ten Questions on compatibility
If you answered no to some of the questions don’t be alarmed, some can be fixed. Although some cannot be changed and if you answered no to all of them, then we can assume that you are indeed not compatible with your spouse!

1. Do you like the way that your spouse kisses?

2. Does your spouse bring you to climax?

3. Do you think about your spouse when you are making love to him/her?

4. Do you like the way your spouse smells?

5. Do you have chemistry with your spouse and find their looks pleasing?

6. Does your spouse know your true fantasies?

7. Do you like the way your spouse’s voice sounds?

8. Does your spouse touch you the way you like?

9. Do you have open communication when it comes to sex?

10. Do you desire your spouse?

Answers to your questions

Do you like the way that your spouse kisses?

The way you and your spouse kiss is very important and it should be one of the qualities about them that you enjoy! When couples exchange passionate kisses the saliva contains hormones that produce feeling of desire. Kissing outside the bedroom is as important as inside the bedroom. Kissing is an art and can be adjusted if not done the way you like experiment with different ways of kissing. Long passionate kisses, wet kisses, biting each others lips softly.....experiment until you get it right!

Does your spouse bring you to climax?

This is very important in a marriage and that is being able to bring pleasure to one another through climax. The fact is if you don’t have that with your spouse that does not necessarily mean that you are not compatible, it means that the two of you have some couples works to do in the bedroom. Once the two of you can learn to please each other the sexual part of the marriage and the overall marriage will improve! Knowing how to pleasure your spouse and bring them to climax with strength the bond in the marriage and make sex all that much more enjoyable for both of you. orgasm will release powerful hormones, that create closeness and bonding. If you answered no, don’t throw in the towel yet get some help first!

Do you think about your spouse when you are making love to them?

This is a fun question and the answer is that you probably will have times when you are not thinking about your spouse while having sex with them and this is alright, but not all of the time. The real test is the times that you do think about them and are present in the love making session with them, mind, body and soul that counts. When thinking about them during sexual intercourse does it turn you on or off? If it turns you off then, you may not be compatible with them, or you may need to work on the communication in the marriage. There should be times when you make love with your spouse you are focused on them and they are the one who is turning you on.

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Dr. Dawn Michael

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Dawn Michael PhD ACS

Location: Westlake Village, CA
Credentials: BA, MA, PhD
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