The Type Of Relationship That (Unfortunately) Isn't Real

This type of love will not see you through to the end.

By David Wygant — Last updated on Dec 01, 2023

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I've been in the dating business for two decades giving relationship advice to clients, and during that time, I've seen my part in the industry evolve a few times. When I got started in the business, I was the guy who taught men how to meet women.

I was the guy who was there for anyone suffering from nerves or a lack of social skills. I was the guy they turned to when they didn't know how to talk to women.

Then as time went by and I interviewed women about men, I realized so many of you struggle to understand the way men think and feel.

Before long, I started to coach women and help them understand the simplicities of men and how we act in relationships.

Years have gone by, and I'd like to think I'm now wiser and smarter than I was when I started out, and recently I've embraced how important it is to surrender to life, and what it gives us, and let go of unrealistic expectations.

Surrendering to life is what got me to where I am today, and learning to surrender, even when I didn't want to, is the key to my happiness.

I'm sure my daughter coming into my life made me realize this. See, to begin with, I felt having a child was taking away the freedom I thought I wanted.

Now, even when I'm free, I still think to myself, "I'd rather be with my daughter, sharing my love and learning all the beautiful lessons she has for me."

I surrendered to the path life took me on, rather than concentrating on what I thought it had taken from me.

My daughter completely changed the path my life was on, but she took me onto a path that has led to my ultimate happiness.

If I hadn't surrendered to her, goodness knows where I'd be now.

Now in life, I surrender 100 percent of the time. I surrender to whatever opportunities come my way, and whoever comes my way. I understand that life takes us on whatever path we're meant to be on.

Even when it feels like you're going the wrong way, or you're convinced your path is right, life will ultimately give us what we're meant to have.

This principle is the key to love and happiness and teaches us how important it is to surrender and let go when we know a relationship isn't right for us.

Letting someone go is one of the hardest things we can do in relationships, but learning when enough is enough is so important.

How many times have you tried to change a man you dated because he didn't quite fit your idea of perfect?

How many of you have forced yourself to stay in a relationship that didn't feel right because the guy was an ideal match for the fairytale you had in your head?

How many times have you found yourself stuck with a man you knew wasn't right for you?

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How many times have you said to yourself, "If I just give him time, he'll change? If I treat him even better, he'll love me more and won't cheat again"?

How often do those relationships go the distance?

He still acts the same, he still gives you the same excuses, and the relationship still feels as bad as it always has.

Still, you stick with him because you're certain your fairytale will come true. Instead, you should surrender to the fact you'll never be right together.

You have to learn to let go of the fairytales you have in your head when you know it isn't right for you.

And trying to change someone to turn them into the man you want them to be is another very dangerous thing to do. Surrender to life telling you that they're not right for you, and move on.

Ending a relationship that isn't working is hard. You have invested time and emotions into someone and you don't want to accept that it's time to say goodbye.