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Dating? Go From 'Why Won't He Call?' To 'Who Cares!'

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Dating Coach: Don't Waste Your Time On The Wrong Men
Come from a place of abundance and stop stressing about the phone.
Does it drive you crazy when guys don't call you back? Here's why it shouldn't bother you.

He hasn't called you back. At first you felt comfortable waiting it out, but now it's starting to really upset you. Didn't you have fun together? Doesn't he care about you?

You're sick of being treated like this by guys. You asked all your friends what they think. You've spent hours talking it over with them, trying to figure out what's going on in his head. And yet, you still can't find the answer. It's now getting on two weeks, and he hasn't picked up the phone. You're probably thinking, "Do I ring him again, or just leave him to it? I thought we were getting on well, so I can't understand why I'm torturing myself."

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Do you want to know why he hasn't called?

It's because he doesn't like you the way the way you want to be liked. It's honestly that simple. You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't say something you shouldn't. You didn't wear the wrong clothes. He just isn't feeling a connection to you.

This may be hard to hear, but you need to let it go. We get so upset when someone doesn't treat us the way we expect, or the way we feel they should. Luckily, tere's the key to getting over these things quickl...

Get out there and meet more people!

Many people only go out on a few dates per year, and wonder why they're still single! Instead of worrying why one guy wasn't in to you, get out there and meet new ones who may appreciate you.

Dating is a numbers game. You have to get through the guys who aren't interested in you to get to the ones who are (just like men are working through women who might not be a match for them). Really serious about making an effort and fostering a connection? You need to meet people every single day of the week. Talk to men in the grocery store, chat up guys in coffee shops and join clubs and groups that interest you — wherever you are, make the effort to connect with people all of the time.

You need to start living from a place of abundance, so you don't get so upset when one guy doesn't bother calling you. When you go out and meet different people every day, you're not going to obsess about a single man who doesn't connect with you. You'll just shrug, and move on to the next guy. Remember, you're the gift. Any man you approach is lucky you've chosen to speak to him. Come from that mindset and see how quickly things change for you.

It's about putting yourself out there, talking to people, and — dare I say it — making yourself vulnerable. But being vulnerable doesn't mean acting insecure. Don't get hung up on one or two guys. There's a whole world full of men who'd gladly give up a limb to spend some time with you! You'll never find them if you're stressing over someone else, so it's high time for an attitude adjustment.

Go get 'em!

In the meantime, if you want get a better idea of how men think, take a read of THIS blog post I wrote recently.

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