Why You Need To Date Like You're Directing A Romantic Comedy

Here's why Ben Stiller and Jennifer Anniston could find you your true love in 2015.

A friend of mine called me the other day and she asked.

"David, I went out with this guy the other night. He was cool. He was interesting. But when we hugged, I just didn't feel the heat that I needed.  But then again, I only knew him for two hours and I'm not sure. He was really cool."

I looked at her and said, "You need to think like an actor, or more like a casting director."

For those of you who don't know how Hollywood works, casting directors literally cast all movies and all of the TV shows. When someone comes in and reads a monologue or reads from a scene it’s the casting director they’re reading, too.

The casting director makes a decision whether to call someone back or not based on how they felt the performance was. So, when you’re dating, you need to think like a casting director.

You're casting for your next boyfriend, your next relationship. Does he fill the criteria of what you need to have in a boyfriend?

The little bit he gave you on that first date, did he give you enough for you to call him back?

You see, a first date is good, if you think someone is cool.

A first date is good if you think someone is fun.

Maybe you didn't feel the spark when you hugged, because maybe he was just nervous when he hugged you, or perhaps you were nervous. But in the situation above and in situations like this in your life, I want you to become the casting director of your life.  

I want you to call him back. I want you to set up another date and do the call back. It's important, because you never know who is going to be the one. It gives you an opportunity to go and see if that person is any different. It gives you a chance build upon it. I've done this in my life.

Sometimes I've been not quite sure and I took my inner casting director. I called my date back and occasionally went on to have relationships with some of these women. 

Make a list of what it is you’re looking for in a partner. Do you want someone who is funny? Is money important to you? What about hygiene, tastes in movies, or family? What are you looking for in a life mate?

Chances are you’re not looking for nice. Here’s the thing: Neither is the person across the table from you. A lot of times on first dates we’re trying to be another person. This is natural. We want to be liked. We want to come off as the perfect date. But that’s not your real goal.

Your real goal is to find a partner. Right?

Isn’t that what’s most important—Finding a partner who can walk through life with you?

If you want my help, I can show you how to really connect with a man so deeply, he can't help but fall head over heels for you!


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