Why Are Men Addicted To Porn?

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Why Are Men Addicted To Porn?
You love your boyfriend and your sex life is good, so why is he still watching porn?

I get e-mails from you all the time asking, "David, I'm with this great man, but he watches porn all the time. I hate it. What can I do about it?"

Why do men watch porn?

For me, men watch porn because they're too afraid to tell you what they really want. Not all men like the same things sexually, and as a woman, it's not easy to know exactly how to turn your man on. If they don't tell you, it's virtually impossible.

To me porn is something I watched when I was 14-years-old.

I remember the first porn I ever watched. It was called, "Swedish Erotica." I stole it from my dad to see what it was all about. I remember watching it and thinking to myself, "Is this what sex is like because it just doesn't seem real?"

Ok, my 14-year-old brain was probably a little deeper than most others of my age, but I could see people in the film weren't connecting. It didn't turn me on and to be honest porn never really has.

Here's the thing: Men are very visual creatures. They like to watch sex. They like to see someone acting out their secret fantasies. You'll very rarely find a man watching a homemade video with a normal couple having sex in their bedroom. It doesn't excite him. He can see that at home when he's having sex with you.

Men that are addicted to porn will watch two women together. They'll watch women dressed up in some sort of sexy outfit, or using toys on themselves. In other words, they'll watch things they don't see with you. They watch it because those things turn them on.

So what am I really saying here?

Well, to stop your man watching porn, you have to become his porn. You have to become his sexual fantasy. The only way you're going to do that is by knowing what turns him on. Ask him what he desires sexually. What really turns him on?

Knowing men are very visual, it's a good idea to make him watch you while you go down on him. Wear sexy underwear and take it off in front of him. Make him watch you masturbate, but don't let him touch you. Literally, tie him up and make him watch you touch yourself. He's going to go crazy for you.

Become his porn and I guarantee you he won't bother watching it anymore. You'll have a better time in the bedroom too. Don't be afraid to let go sexually. So many women are scared of letting loose in the bedroom.

You're a beautiful, sexy, desirable woman. Enjoy yourself. Let your hair down. Scream out loud. You'll have an amazing sex life and porn will become a thing of the past. To find out more about what goes on inside men's heads and to grab your free newsletter come over to www.davidwygant.com.

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