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How To Think Like A Man

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How To Think Like A Man
Puzzled by men? Here's a quick guide to understanding them!

While I have been coaching both men and women for over a decade, what I really enjoy about coaching each gender is very different.  What I love most about coaching women is feeling like I am getting to share with them all of the secrets about men that men never tell them.  I have always loved being able to give women a tour inside the mind of a man, so that they truly understand men and how they're wired.  

Here is a perfect example of how I get to do this.  A woman reader of my blog asked me a question the other day that I felt I absolutely NEEDED to address not only with her, but with ALL of the women out there.  She asked me this: “David, If I stare at a man, won't he think I'm coming on to him?”  

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You know what my answer was to this?  So what!!   Men and women are wired very differently.  It was the fact that she even wondered about this, though, that led me to see that for women to change their dating life they need to start thinking like a man.  

Here are 5 reasons why all of you women out there NEED to start thinking like a man in your dating life:

1. Men are not wired like women.  We don't think about every little, tiny thing.  If our elbow itches, we itch it.  If you we have to blow our nose, we blow it.  We don’t wonder why our elbow itches.  Men don't make these things any more complicated than that.  

2. Men Don't Search For “The Why” In Everything.  Men don't need to find the deeper meaning (or assume there is any deeper meaning) in everything.  If a woman's elbow itches, she wonders “Why does my elbow itch?  Did I do something to make my elbow itch?  Did I eat something that made my elbow itch?”  Women have to find out the “why” for everything they do and everything that happens to them. “Why does this guy like me?  What does this mean?”  It doesn't mean anything!!  You have to think like a man!  

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3. To Meet Men, You Need To Learn To “Speak Man.”  If you are attracted to a man, smile at him and stare at him.  Speak man!  To “speak man” means that you need to be obvious.  We need you to be obvious.  If you're obvious, we'll walk over like a puppy dog.  We don't want to sit there, thinking and wondering all night long what you're casual two second glance means. We WANT you to smile at us and talk to us.  

4. Men Aren't Thinking What You Think They Are.  Stop trying to anticipate a man's reaction to you based upon how you as a woman thinks.  Women so often assume that men are thinking certain ways about how women behave, and women so often are so wrong!  If you look at us, we are not thinking that you’re easy.  All we are thinking is that you are looking at us.   Really, that's all!  We are, in fact, so glad that you're being obvious enough for us to get it that we almost want to high-five you!  

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David Wygant

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David

www.davidwygant.com

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