Don't Complicate Your Dating Life—Learn How To Say NEXT


Dating shouldn't be like a puzzle, put yourself out there and someone special will find you.

Everyone makes dating so complicated and it really doesn’t have to be. If you think about it, it’s as complicated as boy meets girl, boy and girl fall in love. You don’t have to be so deeply in your head. Always trying to find deeper meanings or signs of things that may or may not be happening. As a great example, I had an email the other day from a girl who’s seen a guy at her gym. She’s very attracted to him, but here’s her problem ...

"There's a guy I like in the gym. I’ve been seeing him there for months. I see him there every day. But I'm afraid to smile at him. He looks at me and I look at him. We stare at each other like deer in the headlights. I don't understand why he won't come over and talk to me. What do I do?"

Well …

It's real simple. You need to make yourself available to him. How do you do that? You smile.

It shouldn't be so complicated, but so many women are waiting for a man to go an approach because in reality that's how it should be. Every guy should be a damn alpha male. Every guy should be bold enough to walk up to a woman he finds attractive to say "hello." Every guy should be an alpha guy, but the reality is, most are not.

Men suffer from a horrible illness called "approach anxiety."

So the guy you see at the gym is probably thinking to himself, "How come this girl is never available? Why do we always stare at each other? How come she doesn’t smile?"

Here's the deal … Meeting a guy and dating shouldn't be this difficult.

Conversations between two adults shouldn't be this difficult. Saying "hello" shouldn't be this difficult. All this should not be that hard, but you get so caught up in the illusion. You think you like someone, so you put pressure on yourself to be "perfect" when you meet them.

Everybody does it.

You get so caught up in someone who may not even be right for you. If you just had a simple conversation, you’d find out if there’s any attraction there. A simple conversation every single day will enable you to grow so much socially. Having conversations will help you start opening up. It'll enable you to start flirting, to start eliminating the men who aren’t any good for you. You can’t say you like a guy until you know whether you’re a good match. You'll start seeing people. You'll start realizing that this doesn't have to be that difficult.

This should be really simple and easy. Boy meets girl. Girl meets boy. Make yourself open and available every day. You should never wait on somebody. Smile, and say "hi." The guy doesn't respond? Then you move onto the next. Dating is all about using the magic word "next," it’s the best four-letter word you'll use ever.

Everything in life is about "next."

That’s how simple dating should be. Next, next, next. It shouldn't have to be so painful and stressful. It should be a series of conversations and "nexts."

Be open and vulnerable every single day. Don’t let opportunities pass you by, and if there’s someone you’re attracted to, go and talk to them. What’s the worst that can happen? You may even meet the perfect man!



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