The Dangers Of Online Dating: Mental Masturbation

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The Dangers Of Online Dating: Mental Masturbation
There's nothing wrong with online dating, but there's a hidden danger you must watch out for...

Online dating can be the perfect place to meet your Mr. Right, but there's a common mistake I see women make time after time, and I need to bring it to your attention. The mistake I'm talking about is… mental masturbation!

"What an earth is this crazy man talking about now?"

Well, mental masturbation is one of the big dangers with online dating. It's what happens when you find a guy's profile and start having a mental romance even before you've met him. You go back and check out his profile dozens of times a day, and each time you read it, you start to desire him even more. You imagine he's the one who's going to sweep you off your feet. You imagine he's the one you're going to settle down with for life. You love the way he looks, the way he describes himself, and what he says he wants from a relationship. He seems like the perfect man.

You start to imagine what it'll be like when you're with him. You imagine how nice it will be when he holds you tight, and tells you how much he loves you. You can't wait to be with him. You imagine all these things because you're so desperate to meet a man. You're so desperate to fall in love. And even though this man is just a photo and a series of words on a computer screen, you've already fallen in love.

Sure, maybe the guy does have a fantastic online dating profile. Maybe he's had me coach him about online dating, and I've helped him put his profile together. I always teach guys how to write a great profile, and how to create a romantic comedy in a woman's mind, and I know this stuff works. I often have women come back to me and say my profile is the best they've ever read.

But when you see a great profile, you need to meet the man behind the words to see if he's as amazing as he sounds. Maybe you won't connect. Maybe the chemistry won't be there. Maybe the conversation will dry up within minutes. You just don't know until you actually meet someone in person. You have to resist the temptation to fall in love with an online profile before you meet the guy. It's mental masturbation, and it can end in disaster. How many times have you romanced a guy online, loved his profile, and then when you met he looked nothing like his photo? He looked amazing in his picture, but when you met, he was 40 pounds heavier and 3 inches shorter than you thought?

In the end, you realized you weren't attracted to him so you went home, jumped back online, and started romancing another profile. It's time to stop the madness. It's time to stop the mental masturbation!

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