Is Your Massive Texting Obsession Making You Lonely?

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Dating Tips: Texting & How To Start A Conversation
Cell phones and tablets have change the way we communicate. But they're also ruining your love life.

I'm pretty sure there needs to be a new club titled The T.A. What does it stand for? "Text-a-holics Anonymous." Are you a card-carrying member of T.A.?

I've touched on it before, but the problem is getting worse. It seems like we're living in the world of grade school kids: We spend all day sending notes back and forward to each other, like we did in high school. Don't believe me? How many people do you have in your life right now that you never actually see or speak to? What about people only ever talk to via text or Facebook?

Now, I'm not saying I never send text messages. Sometimes it's easier to confirm an appointment or send a little love note by text. Do you remember when you were a little girl and you'd write your crush a note? You might say something like, "I really like you. Will you be my boyfriend this week?" It was all good, sweet fun back then. In a way, texting is the adult version of passing notes. Sometimes it's a totally adorable way to communicate ... but not all the time. When you only "speak" by text or social messaging, you lose a genuine connection with people. And since we insist on texting all the time, we've lost all of our intimacy.

For sure, texting gives us a great way to send and receive quick little messages with people. It helps us keep our lives a little more organized. It's like the modern day carrier pigeon: We send off a note to say we're running late, and off our little pigeon goes to let our loved ones know. But here's the problem with texting. We've become dependent on it. In fact, I'd say we've become addicted to text messaging and social messaging. And, when you think of it, we've even cut ourselves off from speaking in complete sentences. Twitter only gives you 140 characters to tell people how you feel!

Too many people become text buddies and nothing more. You meet, exchange numbers, and spend the next few weeks texting backwards and forwards. Neither one picks up the phone, and neither one asks for a date. How many people do you know like that? Are you one of them?

How can we expect to connect as human beings anymore if we don't hear voices anymore? How can we build powerful relationships if we don't care enough to pick up the phone and actually say "Hello" to someone?

I mean, heck, now we even have "smart watches". We can merely look down at our wrist and send our friends or a potential date a message. How long will it be until someone finds a way we can communicate without saying anything at all? It's time to stop the madness. It's time to put down our phones, and it's time to start seeing each other. It's time to stop texting and start dating.

I challenge you to physically talk to more people than you text this week. Are you up for it? Leave a comment below to share your progress.

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