6 Relationship Ending Dating Behaviors

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6 Relationship Ending Dating Behaviors
Are you doing any of these?

When you're dating somebody, what are the boundaries? Are there certain relationship boundaries which, if crossed, cause irreparable damage and the ultimate end of most relationships? While I am not usually a fan of hard and fast “rules” for relationships, there are certain dating behaviors which will almost without exception will end a relationship.

What all of these behaviors have in common is that they are violations of another person's trust. Once one person in a relationship no longer trusts their partner, the relationship will almost certainly end. So to help you ensure that this doesn't happen in your relationship, here are 6 relationship-ending dating behaviors that should always be avoided: Keep in mind that I am not mentioning the most obvious one which is cheating.

1. Everyone Is Entitled To Their Privacy. What constitutes a violation of someone's privacy? When, if ever, are you justified in violating your partner's privacy? If you have an “intuition” about something, does that give you the right to start reading through your partner's email? To start listening to their voicemail messages? To hack into their other Internet accounts? The answer to all of these is no! To violate someone's privacy is to violate their trust. You should NEVER dig through someone's personal emails, or listen to someone's voicemail messages. By listening to your partner's voicemail messages or reading their emails, you are violating not only their trust, but also the trust your partner has with anyone who left those voicemail messages and emails.

 

2. There's No Such Thing As “A Lie For The Greater Good.” Of course lying is never good in a relationship, although we've probably all been guilty of doing it. Certain kinds of lies, though, are far more damaging to a relationship than others. Some people will lie to their partner in certain situations in an effort to avoid hurting them or to avoid having to have a conversation that will be hurtful to them. So although we lie believing we are doing so to “protect” our partner, when that lie is exposed (which it almost always inevitably is) we end up digging a deeper hole for ourselves. When you do get caught in this situation, not only do you end up hurting your partner anyway, but you also end up hurting yourself even more. In life, what you fear will actually manifest – but it will manifest even more severely than you feared. So whatever you were trying to protect your partner from by lying to them will seem worse because of your lie than it would ever have had been if you just were open and honest about it from the get-go. On top of that, you have violated your partner's trust by lying to them. These kind of lies are almost always relationship-enders.

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