You went on a first date with an amazing man. You thought you looked great in that dress. You're pretty sure that he found the stories about your dog hilarious. You're certain that he didn't notice you got a little tipsy on all those cocktails. Is Finding A Soul Mate Unrealistic?
The problem is that he doesn't call. Or text. Or email. So, you decide to call your girlfriends to dissect every single thing he said and every single thing you did. Why didn't he ask you out again?
According to the men in my life, here are the top ten reasons why your first date with him ended up being your last:
1. It's too easy to get into bed. Men love it when you're crazy hot for them. The issue is that nobody wants to feel like they're being used for sex or that anybody "with the right parts will do." Some men separate women into camps of "one night stands" and "girlfriend material." Though it's not necessarily fair, those ladies who are quick to bed sometimes end up in the former. 4 Signs Your First Date Should Be Your Last
2. You're not sexually compatible. Maybe there's a bit of canoodling on that first date. Or, at least enough to figure out where each of you fall on the continuum of sexuality. Maybe you kiss or move in a way that doesn't quite work for him. Maybe you can't relax or he can't leave the lights on. Maybe you want it a little rough and he wants things soft and tender. Neither of you are "doing it wrong," but you're probably not right for each other.
Some men like little skinny women. Some men like their curves. I highly recommend that you be with a man who likes your body the way it already is. Not if you lose a few or gain a few. Women need to feel desired. A part of us dies if we don't feel sexually appealing. Your body type may not do it for him and he's doing you a favor by not asking you again. Find the man who wants to wrap himself up in your deliciousness without you having to change a single thing.
3. He thinks you're not into him. If you're not particularly interested in a guy, there's a pretty good chance he can tell. If you are interested in him, stop playing so "hard to get!" Shockingly enough, men have feelings too and he's not going to ask you out again if he imagines he's going to get rejected. Is It Time To 'Suck It Up?'
4. He doesn't like the way you talk. Your friends think it's hilarious when you pepper your speech with "omg!" and "sad face!" but this man might not be into it. It's also possible that he's not into baby voices, excessive swearing or the twenty minute rant about Ron Paul. If you think you're alienating men with your conversational skills, ask a close guy friend for his honest opinion.