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Doing It Alone
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Here's how to cope with a life that forces an individual to do it all on their own.

Recent statistics state that divorced women with children are four times more likely than married women to have an income that is under the poverty line. A single mom is nine times more likely than a married woman to have an income that is less than half the official poverty line. Although 10 percent of families in the U.S. are headed by a woman, 40 percent of poor families have a female head of household. Of course, divorce also results in a higher cost to society as a whole. According to one study, a single divorce can cost state and federal governments more than $30,000 in court fees, increased bankruptcies, food stamps and public housing benefits.


These statistics are the result of poor planning and the decision to rely on the husbands income. When marriages end and the divorce is final, the marital assets have been divided, child support and shared parenting is all arranged and agreed upon, it is time to severe the ex-spousal attachment. This means you are no longer indebted nor reliant on him anymore. It is not in your best interest to perch yourself in the marital home, lunch with your other divorcee friends and bond over ex-husband bashing. It is time to pick yourself up from the debri of divorce and get back out there and become self-reliant and self-sufficient.

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It is not uncommon for most divorce proceedings to take time. Therefore, during this process find yourself a therapist who won’t indulge with you in licking your wounds by sharing in ex-husband bashing you so much want to enjoy. Rather, it would be more productive that your therapist and you utilize the session to formulate a goal plan that is more empowering than sitting in her office each week blaming his mother for the way she screwed him up. Keep Reading...

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