Is Hot Sex Possible in a Long-Term Monogamous Relationship?

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Is Hot Sex Possible in a Long-Term Monogamous Relationship?
After years together, it can get boring in the bedroom. Read more for solutions to spicing it up.

Is it possible to have hot sex while being monogamous?

Like anything else out there, it takes work and a certain amount of creativity. The answer is a definite YES. It is MORE than possible to have a smokin’ hot monogamous relationship. I believe that is a big part of the reason why the mom porn book “50 Shades of Grey” is so popular – the women reading it are turned on by all the kinky monogamy. (Here is another blog I wrote about how "Regular" people can kink it up 50 Shades style.)

 

But how do you get there?

Communication leads to hot sex, period. Your partner will never know what you want if you don’t tell them. You don’t necessarily have to sit down face to face with a list of demands, either. You can text or email your partner and start off with some steamy talk  – talking is important to ladies.

Remember, women are primarily AURALLY stimulated (that means hearing, though being orally stimulated isn’t a bad idea either) and men are primarily VISUALLY stimulated. We like the words and mental imagery, and those things really get our juices flowing – much in the same way that a hot woman in lingerie or porn might get you going. (Great book for Sexy Moms. Sexy Mamas)

So how do you bring out more kink in your relationship? Talking (especially dirty talk) is one way, but that’s not the only way to turn up the heat! I know of couples who read naughty excerpts from old Penthouse magazines. A friend of mine highlighted all of her favorite parts of the 50 Shades trilogy and had her husband read them aloud to get her all worked up.

Those couples really enjoyed reading steamy things together. Other couples have written their own adult movie screenplays, sharing that fantasy with one another via email. Other couples send dirty texts and flirty messages throughout the day. 

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