It always seems like one person wants their partner to have the ability to read their mind. This is what they tell me in my office : "He should KNOW what I like/want/need without me having to tell him. If I have to tell him what I want, well, then it doesn't mean as much when he ...
One way to undercut a relationship is by not managing conflict effectively.
And that will usually occur one of two ways:
Either you are afraid of conflict, and avoid it, or your methods of managing conflict render you more like a bull in a china shop than like a loving partner. Both methods may be ...
Because we are social animals, and because it feels so good, we all want to get connected, be connected, and stay connected.
But, we often forget, one of the primary reasons for being connected has to do with survival: Without connection, we simply do not survive.
Problem is, it doesn't seem to ...
I want to talk about one of the most common complaints I hear in my office almost daily that potentially wreaks havoc on relationships. It's about control.
How many times have you said about your partner, or heard said about yourself? "He or she is so controlling!" It often goes something ...
The focus of this article is to elaborate on two related themes: One, the differences between resentful compliance and commitment; Two, how understanding those differences can alter the course of a relationship.
Resentful compliance is an agreement that is not an agreement, but ...