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Ready To Date Again? Take This Self Love Quiz First! [EXPERT]

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Ready To Date Again? Take This Self Love Quiz First! [EXPERT]
Burned by love? Will fear hold you back or motivate you to blast through your limited thinking?

Ever wonder why it is so hard to hear from your intuition when it comes to love?

You might very well be experiencing rocking success with the other parts of your life. In fact, I hear that from you in the notes you leave on my Facebook wall. Readers of my best selling book, the Map, continually write to me and rave about how finding the clues along their personal inner Maps is reaping great rewards.

So why does your intuition get all fuzzy when it comes to matters of the heart?

Shhh....here’s the secret. Your Goblin does NOT want you to get this bit of truth, so listen in...When you solve your phobias about love and build healthy successful relationships, you will create a healthy successful life.

Not only that, when you follow your Map, the one you and Spirit agreed on before you ever came here, you will be amazed at how simple it is to disarm your Goblin’s scaredy cat self. Remember, your Goblin, no matter how BIG and SCARY he seems, is really just one small part of your entire consciousness.

Everyone has a wounded and broken ego busy repelling love somewhere underneath all of the posturing and projecting that is done to present one’s image to the outer world. This ‘character’ is just a part of who you are.

I created the idea of the Goblin so you can depersonalize and detach from what is only one tiny part of the magnificence of who you really are. He is the champion of Self Pity and that is a real soulmate repellent.

Because your Goblin wants to separate you from your intuition, and remember that ALWAYS happens when your attention is on that inner critical and doubting voice, your Love Life is his favorite playground. Let me give you a quiz so you can check out how vulnerable you are to fears about love:

Self Love or Self Pity Quiz

True or False, when it comes to Love:

I have been abandoned by an intimate family member like a mother, father, sister or brother.

I have been rejected by a religious or church body that professed Love but acted differently.

I have felt like a single person while I was in a “close committed” relationship.

I can have compassion for others but struggle to think of myself kindly.

I have a constant sense of separation and anxiety even when with my family and friends.

I believe that Love is something that happens to you rather than a creative force.

I have experienced nothing but pain and disappointment when it come to love.

If you answered True to most of the above, you are in the right place and I have REALLY good news for you. True Love is NOT what you think it is. Your ideas about love are terribly distorted. Because life has victimized you, you are looking at love through the filter of what I call “victim consciousness.” And guess what?

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Colette Baron-Reid

Author, Dating Coach, Life Coach, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter

In service and love,
Colette Baron-Reid


Master Intuitive Coach®, Life Strategist and #1 bestselling author of The Map; Finding the Magic and Meaning in the Story of Your Life
Founder of the Master Intuitive Coach® Institute

www.MasterIntuitiveCoachInstitute.com
www.ColetteBaronReid.com

Location: Hampton, NH
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Specialties: Addiction, Energy Psychology
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