Maybe you’re discouraged because you don’t feel heard or understood. And whenever you try to express yourself, your significant other clams up, tunes out—or worse, turns into “Mr. Fix-It.”
Maybe you’re angry at something your partner said or did, but since you’ve been butting heads so often lately, you bite your tongue to avoid yet another nasty battle. Meanwhile, as things fester, your misery deepens.
Perhaps your sex life has fizzled, leaving you feeling confused, lonely, and undesirable.
Maybe the thrill is gone from your relationship, and everything feels so routine and predictable. Where’s the excitement? The spontaneity? The romance?
Or perhaps you’re experiencing a nagging disconnect from your partner. You feel helpless not being able to pinpoint what’s causing it, and hopeless not having a clue how to fix it.
I’ve been there, and I believe I have the tips, tools, and expertise you need to get your relationship back on track…to reignite that spark…and to fall head-over-heels in love with your partner again. Helping couples take giant steps towards reconnecting on a deeper level, both mentally and physically, is my specialty—and my passion.
I have spent over a decade observing and studying human behavior patterns in relationships. My first book, Conversation is Sexy, was an Amazon.com bestseller, leading to guest appearances on CBS, NBC, and FOX. My newest book, Revolutionize Your Relationships, offers tips and tools on how to improve your relationships both at work and at home. I have appeared on over 75 radio programs and been invited to host a nationally syndicated radio talk show. I have also been featured as a relationship expert in national/international publications, including Woman's World, Men's Health Singapore and First for Women.
I am a Certified Professional Communication and Relationship Coach and a four-time, award-winning Broadcaster of the Year with over two decades of on-air television, radio, and interpersonal coaching experience. From calling the shots as a sports anchor to hosting morning drive time segments and live call-in shows, I have covered the gamut.
The media have nicknamed me “Mr. Lover Lover;” clients call me “Dr. Phil with a sense of humor.” I have hundreds of success stories and testimonials I’d love to share with you.
I spend the bulk of my time coaching individuals and couples, as well as speaking to groups and organizations on topics ranging from cracking the gender code to how to use communication skills to fall deeper in love, improve your relationships (with friends, family, coworkers, and bosses), get noticed —and promoted—at work, boost sales….and more. In the not-too-distant future, I plan to host a weekend retreat for couples in committed relationships on how to communicate on a higher level and connect on a deeper emotional level. If this is something you think you might like to attend, message me with your email address, and I’ll be in touch.
I believe communication is the superglue that holds any relationship together, and when you lose that ability to share and express your thoughts, feelings, and emotions with one another, your relationship suffers.
My passion is to empower you and your significant other to sharpen your communication skills, truly understand what makes each other tick, and use what I teach you to create/recreate a love beyond words.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
When I got married, I was 100% committed to my relationship and to making it work for the rest of my life. When my marriage crumbled after 12 years, the pain was devastating. Although the split was mutual and amicable, I felt an overwhelming sense of loss and failure.
Ultimately, there was an upside to all of this—a silver lining that not only allowed me to heal and love again, but also planted the seeds of passion to help others avoid the emotional turmoil I’d endured.
I took a hard look at myself—inventorying my strengths and weaknesses—and realized I’d made a lot of mistakes:
- I learned that I wasn’t really such a good listener.
- I learned that I had a tendency to run the other way or sweep stuff under the rug when I was upset about something, because I was clueless about how to resolve conflicts without having nasty fights.
- I learned that as much as I thought I knew about what makes women tick, I wasn’t even close to understanding gender differences and what a huge impact they can have on relationships.
- I learned that the life I was living was lopsided. I was working way too much and way too hard and not spending enough time relaxing, having fun—or, most importantly, focusing on the relationships in my life that meant so much to me.
I read and studied everything I could find about relationships. I quizzed experts and interviewed hundreds of happy couples in long-term marriages. I became a Certified Professional Relationship and Communication Coach. I wrote two books, launched a speaking career, and began counseling individuals and couples. I became obsessed—and still am—with doing whatever I could to help other men and women in relationships avoid the anguish and despair I’d experienced.
I believe communication is the key to:
- Clearing the air and moving on when facing conflict
- Cracking the gender code to assure that nothing you say or do gets “lost in translation”
- Pinpointing (and fixing) personal and relationship weaknesses that, over time, can manifest into major roadblocks
- Removing barriers to intimacy
- Reigniting attraction and passion
- So much more
Watching couples I work with reconnect using the tips, tools, and techniques I teach them is amazing to me. In essence, witnessing their joy brings joy to my own life—both personally and professionally.
Articles by Coach Todd Reed
Coach Todd, WOW on your presentation at our corporate leadership retreat. Everyone was dreading this annual event because profits have been way down, morale was at an all time low, and we’d been having a lot of infighting among our management staff. But you shared some fascinating team building exercises with us, and weeks later, we continue to reap the rewards of your efforts. We are grateful and hope to see you at next year's retreat.
Eileen H., Human Resources, The Duncan Company
Coach Todd, thanks for speaking to our group. We are all in agreement that you are a charismatic and dynamic speaker with a real gift for connecting with people.Your tips and advice were refreshing and memorable, but what made you such a joy to listen to was your keen sense of humor. We hope you'll come back soon!
Robert V. Fellowship of Christian Athletes
Reading "Conversation is Sexy" has made me realize what makes my Sadie tick and that's been huge. I grew up one of four boys and women have always been a mystery to me. I'm in my early forties and have dated a ton of women but Sadie is the first woman I've ever wanted to have stick around for a long while. Our first few months together were awesome but once we moved in together things started to go south. She'd get upset about things and I wouldn't have a clue why she was mad or sad or whatever. I'd ask her what was wrong and she'd tell me nothing was wrong when clearly it was. So I would take her for her word and then she'd get even more pissed or upset. It was very confusing. We'd fight and then makeup, then fight some more and make up again. Finally I got tired of fighting and was ready to call it quits even though I love her a lot.
Your book made me understand the differences in men and women and how major a role they play in a relationship. Now I understand how Sadie operates and if I can keep her "emotional tank" filled, everything is hunky dory. I'm slowly figuring out how to do that and we are getting along better than ever. I'm absolutely amazed at the changes in our relationship and so is she. I haven't shared your book with her but I will soon. I have given her a couple of the coupons though and she went crazy over them.
Your book is filled with so much valuable info like that. Appreciate it man.
Sammy C., Portland, OR
I have been married for 23 years and the first 20 years were awesome. But in the last three years my husband, who is 6 years older than I am, has become distant. He never was a great communicator and now he hardly talks to me at all. He just goes to work then comes home and watches TV then goes to bed. He also lost interest in sex about four years ago. I'm in my early fifties and nowhere near ready to give up on romance and sex but I'm of that generation that believes "for better or worse" so I've stuck by Nathan. I've tried every thing I can think of to get him to open up to me but nothing has worked.
I wish I could say your book gave me the answer to getting him to respond to me but it actually did the opposite. It made me realize that I deserve better. Not that I didn't try your tips and techniques. Nathan says he loves me but I see now that he's not willing to work at our relationship and that hurts more than I can say. I have suffered in silence for four years and have just decided to separate from him and focus on myself for a while and see how that goes. I feel a bit guilty about that but I am a very passionate and affectionate person who needs so much more than I'm getting.
Who knows maybe Nathan will come around once he sees what he's lost, but I'm fully prepared to move on and see what else and who else is out there for me. When I do, I will be using everything I learned from reading "Conversation is Sexy" to find a new love of my life. Reading your history chapter has taught me a lot on what to avoid in a future relationship. I'm well aware that it takes two for a marriage to crumble and I'm willing to take responsibility for the part I played and not repeat my mistakes.
From cover to cover your book was an eye opener for me and I thank you so much for giving me the courage to begin again. Fifty is the new thirty!!! Lol.
A devoted fan,
Cissy B., Dallas, TX
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