When it comes to making sense of the often mystifying topic of relationships, Dave Elliott is an international Relationship Coach and human behavior specialist who breaks down complex concepts into easily understandable principles and practices. Whether he’s creating products, blogging for a variety of popular relationship websites or sharing his expertise on TV, radio or live on stage, Dave has one goal – transforming human relationships into something magical.
As a Neurostrategist and Coach who is known for getting results with a variety of techniques that enable rapid transformational change, Dave has used his extensive training and life’s experience to focus on helping people navigate the uncertainties of their most intimate relationships. After his own marriage ended in a painful and disappointing divorce, Dave used that experience to drive him to discover just what it takes to create A Legendary Love for Life. After researching and learning about everything he could find in the field of human relationships, Dave used his past experience as an award-winning ad man to take the very best information he could find and perfect it to make it easier to learn, more memorable and even more effective.
Inspired and taught by one of the world’s foremost authorities on peak performance psychology, when he’s not coaching his own clients, Dave travels around the nation working with groups and individuals supporting Anthony Robbins events. It was in that environment that Dave met his amazing wife, Katrina, a fellow Senior Leader and relationship trainer. Together, Dave & Katrina teach others to create their own Legendary Loves for Life by giving them the awareness and the tools that transform lives.
When you combine Dave’s personal experience with his raw creativity, exceptional training and passion to serve, your relationship can only benefit. If it resonates in your heart, we invite you to be a part of our mission to help people create A Legendary Love for Life…one couple at a time.
To learn more, you can check out his blog site at www.legendaryloveforlife.com or check him out on video at www.manmagnetics.com.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
After my own painful divorce, I discovered personal development and began studying the work of the world's top relationship experts. It is truly a gift and my life's mission to now pass on the gifts I've been given.
It took him 29 years to learn how to love his wife…
But the amazing part about it was that he never stopped trying…
I’ve been working with a couple that I’ve come to admire so much and their story is so incredible, I wanted to share it here. They came to me after a pretty huge issue caused her to walk out…and that created the space for me to help them. Now before you judge these people on the very limited information you know, the truth is they are very good people who love one another deeply. They were simply missing a little awareness and a few workable strategies.
The Roots Of The Issue
While learning how the couple got into this position, I found out she had been repeatedly sexually abused in her childhood by more than one person who should have been her protectors, not perpetrators, for years. She had done some counseling but some of it was so bad, it literally did more harm than good. Through it all, her husband has stood by her side, protected her and their family and loved her through it all. In fact, his wife was the only woman he had ever dated. There was never any doubt how much these two loved one another. Their challenges were simply a matter of not knowing what they didn’t know.
Bridging The Gap
In our first session or two, I focused on healing some wounds, educating them and giving them some new tools. Due to their real commitment, they both made some excellent shifts together and in no time, I began to see them smiling together again. At that point, I wanted to set them up for future success by teaching them exactly HOW to make one another feel more loved, understood and appreciated than ever before. Once the trust had been damaged, it was going to take a concerted effort to get it back. Plus they needed to know exactly how to create win/win scenarios over and over again that were highly valued, not just mildly noticed.
Learning How to Win the Game
In order to teach them both what one another needed in order to feel loved, I taught them both about my H.U.G. & K.I.S.S. Hierarchy™, one of the most powerful tools in my relationship coaching toolbox. Basically, I use that to elicit people’s EXACT love strategies by defining what exactly needs to happen in order for each of them to feel loved? The key is in focusing on the top 3 needs of each partner and making sure those needs not only get met, but also exceeded as a way to bring back the relationship from the edge.
A Surprising Revelation
As I went through the husband’s Hierarchy with him, I discovered that his preference was Unselfish Service first, Kind Words second and Human Touch third. When I asked his wife, she said her preference was first and foremost Human Touch…and as she said it, the look of shock on her husband’s face was unbelievable. When I asked why, he said he was stunned because for 29 years, his experience was that she either flinched or stiffened when he touched her so he did everything he could to NOT cause that reaction. The reality was there was still some unhealed trauma from her previous abuse that was still being triggered so I helped them understand how to heal that…and in my next session, I worked one-on-one with her to resolve that. What was really amazing was that I realized something else. I asked him if Human Touch might actually have been even higher in his Hierarchy at one time…but had only gotten stuffed down lower in his preference due to his wife’s response…and he said “yes, I think you’re right.”
Now THAT’S A Breakthrough!
Sometimes the best intentions go awry. This man who adored his wife, was an excellent protector and provider who just wanted nothing more than to be her hero. Unfortunately, he made a few mistakes because he didn’t know better and was in over his head when it came to fixing them. Luckily I was able to quickly get them back on the same page again and they are now doing beautifully. In fact, on a recent date, a waitress in a cafe was so inspired by their love and affection, she took a picture of them with her own phone and sent it to them. It turns out she was really inspired by their love and affection. Yep, that Human Touch is powerful stuff…
Check out these kind words from my client herself:
“I had had the benefit of life coaching but one area I was not happy with or making progress in was my relationship and after failed counseling a few years back, my hubby wanted nothing to do with coaching or talking to any so called experts. I was at my wit’s end and had actually walked out on our 29 year marriage which just happened to be the catalyst for change and my hubby finally agreed to relationship coaching with Dave.
Dave’s friendly and kind but very knowledgeable approach put us at ease right from the start. Everything he said made sense and it was a revelation to my hubby that men and women did actually think and communicate in different ways.
We quickly learned our primary love languages and realised we had been getting it wrong for 29 years (obviously we had a few things right to still be together after that long…) but Dave gave us the tools to finally win the game. After only two sessions, my wonderful hubby, who is a very quick learner, was a changed man. We love each other and wanted things to work out but we didn’t know what we were doing wrong or how to make things right. With the right tools and a new perspective we are now finally building the ultimate love relationship and the life we truly deserve together.
Thank you Dave for your insight and giving us the tools we needed to reconnect and make our lives magic again.
Dave is an awesome coach and really knows his stuff when it comes to relationships . We cannot recommend him highly enough. The awesome change in our relationship after only 3 sessions astounds me.
– Dave Elliott
This morning I got a beautiful new testimonial from one of my clients and it just made my day. Of course, I’m delighted that she’s settling into a really nice relationship with a man who is really into her and things just keep getting better. However, what really makes me feel great is the unbelievable progress she has made in the relatively short time we’ve worked together. You see, when we first met, she was coming off a breakup and was in a really tough place. Her confidence was absolutely shattered. She was obsessively and compulsively second-guessing herself about what she did wrong...what things meant...what she should have done differently? The problem was she didn’t understand men so she was suffering through the worst from them rather than bringing out the best in them. She had no sense of boundaries. She got taken advantage of and was treated as an afterthought...but that was then. Now it gives me a great deal of pleasure to re-introduce the all-new and improved Michelle now:
“Dave, thank you so much for all of your help with everything. What I feel like I have learned falls into two core buckets of growth. Firstly, my level of confidence has never been so high. I do not know what will happen, but I am no longer afraid or do not withhold in my relationships. I feel simultaneously more loving, but without it being tied to anything other than that is how I want to be, not an outcome of "LOVE." Love is everywhere, no matter if I am in a relationship or not. The work we did on how I show up (winning) and rewriting my old unhelpful stories are a core anchor to everything I do. I used to see relationships as painful and hard, I now see them as easy and fun. It brings out the best in everyone I interact with. I see now my value, and realize that I define my value, no man does. This weirdly allows me to be more giving to him and kinder to myself. I show up to build us both up, not creating a game based on winning or withholding. The second part has been about how to understand men. I no longer take what they do personally. I am able to anticipate how they will behave based on how men see the world, not how women see the world. This means that when he is out of contact for the day, I do not tailspin into something about me. I know that when we are intimate, he will have to regroup, and let him do that without feeling any fear or sadness. When he has to work, it is because he wants to be a good provider. I am also able to support him in a whole new way. He knows I am smart, I do not need to prove it - I am able to ask him how he will solve his own problems by being so much softer. I use my strength in a whole new way, and it feels great. These were true gifts that you give me.... Thank you!”
– Michelle C.
I am so blessed and honored to do this work and serve my clients in such a profound and life-changing way. I hope if you agree that there’s magic in an empowered and radiant woman, I hope you’ll post this image as a reminder for someone else who might need it...and I hope you’ll “like” my page at www.facebook.com/legendaryloveforlife where I share even more positive and uplifting material for free. Plus if you know someone who’s struggling in their relationships, I’d be honored to serve them with a free consultation. At Legendary Love For Life, we’re creating more love and understanding in the world every single day.
www.legendaryloveforlife.com and www.manmagnetics.com
Twitter: @IMCoachDave and @ManMagnetics
"I had been following Dave Elliott's posts and advice on the Ultimate Love and Passion Facebook group, when one day I decided I was ready to connect with him and seek coaching for myself. I felt I was on the cusp of something big, new, adventurous, exciting, loving, flowing....it was around the corner but I still needed a little work and coaching in order to attract that love into my life.
Dave and I met for 10 sessions over the course of a few months and each and every time we spoke, I felt as though I was making tremendous progress and the universe was feeling it. Our last session was on June 27th and a very special man found me and contacted me on a dating site on July 21st. When I read his message and profile, I felt something different. It was a breath of fresh air and a feeling of instant happiness. I felt he was a male version of me and what I had been asking for. Could this be for real?
J and I spoke continuously throughout that week and had our first date on July 26th. What I felt when I heard from him and spoke to him was solidified when we met. It was a natural flow, I felt like I had known him forever. It was easy, fun, comfortable and the attraction was mutual. What I had known deep down inside was that I deserved him more than anything and all the work I put into personal development and being at my best was paying off. I kept believing in myself and that it would happen for me.
We're on the right track and I look forward to what the future holds.
Thanks Dave - you brought out the best in me so I could attract the best in him! "
(What do you think your life would feel like maybe ten sessions from now? – Dave)
An update from Jen:
“My relationship with J. is going extremely well...
We are very happy with one another. He treats me like I want to be treated - makes me smile every day and likes me just as I am. I was comfortable with him right from the beginning and feel confident in the relationship....He is a gentleman, smart, caring, passionate, makes me a priority and wants to ensure I am happy :)
We have a strong communication flow and talk about everything. It is a natural fit and there is a great sense of ease between us. We have a great dynamic and have tons of fun together. We laugh a lot.
He met my family last night...It couldn't have gone any better...my parents felt like they have known him forever...We are on the right track and it is just one day at a time. I am really enjoying the journey and feeling confident, happy and relaxed.
Thanks to you for your excellent coaching and helping me attract an amazing man that is perfect for me :)”
After learning the Formula, I can see how my thoughts and behaviors were contradicting what I really wanted...now I can make those changes...
|Time in Practice||6-10 years|
|I practice in||All areas, please inquire|
|Additional Expertise||Divorce Coach|
Divorce Recovery Coach
Personal Development Coach
|I offer my services||At my office|
Willing To Meet in Public Locations like Starbucks (please inquire)
Via a webcam
Other, please inquire
|I am fluent in||English|