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What Moving Too Fast Or Too Slow Says About Your Dating Life

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Are You Rushing To Get A Boyfriend Or Taking Your Time?
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Don't fret. There's omeone out there waiting for you to walk (or run) on by.

Have you ever become bored after dating someone for a while because they moved really slowly in getting to know you, wanting to see you again, or committing to an exclusive relationship with you?

Did you hope that that person would move faster because, for you, the excitement was wearing off? I have. No, you're not insane, impatient, or abnormal! Okay, maybe a little impatient, but that's perfectly fine.

Perhaps you met someone who moved too fast? You wanted to say, "Whoa! Slow down!" Maybe that person wanted to go so fast that you were a little scared. I have been in this boat, too.

Both scenarios are common and very normal in the dating world right now. The good news is that there are men and women who are fast movers and some who are slow movers. One is not better or worse than the other; they're just different.


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I finally realized this when I met my current husband.

Before him, I dated men who were so slow I could watch paint dry waiting for them to commit or to take things to a new level. I quickly grew bored and frustrated with waiting and waiting and waiting.

It was no wonder why I enjoyed dating many people at the same time. It was exciting!

Take a minute to look at yourself. Would you consider yourself someone who likes things to move fast or slow in the dating arena?

Several weeks ago while hosting my client appreciation Happy Hour event in Colorado, I explained this concept to a client, and, instantly, I could see the lightbulb go on over her head.

All of her frustration with men made sense to her in a moment. She had a new awareness of herself. As she left the event, she thanked me profusely for this discovery.


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My new husband moved fast, and I dug it! He pursued me regularly. We fell in love in four days, and on the fifth day, we knew we would be in a long distance relationship, traveling between Colorado and Switzerland.

Now, we travel together about twice a month to different cities and countries, and our life together still moves fast. And I love it!

Whether you like to move fast or slow is not the issue. What matters is that you meet someone who enjoys operating at your speed in dating and in life. It makes all the difference in the world in you finding your relationship fulfilling.

Suzanne Muller-Heinz is the author of Loveable: 21 Practices for Being in a Loving & Fulfilling Relationship. If you're a woman ready to discover what's really possible for you, visit Happy Living Forever.

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