The Best Way To Repel Men

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Learn what NOT to do the next time you want a guy to like you.

Do you know what the worst possible thing you could do when you meet a new guy is? As a dating coach for women over 40, I'm going to tell you  so you never have to worry about making this self-sabotaging mistake again.

Let me give you the scenario so you can really see how this is such a problem. Maybe you are meeting a guy for a first coffee date. In the dating business this is called "Date Zero." See, it's not really a date. It's a meeting to see if the two of you have enough in common and enough chemistry to go on a real first date.

Okay, so you walk in on a Tuesday night. You had tough day at work. The traffic on the way home stunk. Laundry is piling up at home along with a bunch of other things hanging over your head. If you have kids, there's homework and dealing with the babysitter. Or maybe your ex has the kids this night. You wanted to freshen up but who had time for that? What a day.

You walk into the place and look for the guy. After you spot him, you go over and sit down. Thankfully he asks what you want to drink and you order coffee or maybe a glass of wine to help you relax after such a busy day! What do you talk about first? Perhaps he asks "How was your day?" And you start to tell him. First this happened, then your boss said ... There was an accident on the expressway; the copier was broken again and your computer has some stupid virus; Plus, it's the end of the month and all these reports are due. Whew, you tell him how crazy busy your life is!

Oh no! That's when the sirens and buzzers go off in his head. Major red flags about you pop up because its sounds to him like you are way too busy to date him.

That's it. It only takes one thing like this and your chances with Mr. Wonderful dissolve under your nose. Even though he might not show it, he sits back more in his chair and relaxes. Not because he feels so at ease with you but because he no longer cares. Keep reading ...

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This article was originally published at It's Never Too Late for Love . Reprinted with permission.
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Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan

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