When Is The Right Time For A Woman To Get Married

By

When Is The Right Time For A Woman To Get Married
Where does marriage fall in a woman's life between establishing a career and her biological clock.

According to a recent Atlantic Monthly article, there is only a tiny window for a woman to get married at the "right time." This is because younger women in their 20s feel pressured by parents and friends to focus on education and career. The intention is to get established before being distracted by love. The piece points out that looking for a husband in your 20s throws you back into the 1950s "picket fence" mentality that is considered nearly taboo and flies in the face of feminist ideals.

On the other hand a woman of 35 will suddenly wake up to hear her biological clock ticking and feel pressured to find a husband. As her eggs age minute-by-minute, friends and family mention the horrible "man shortage" and the shrinking potential for achieving wedded bliss.

If the consensus is a woman should stay single in her 20s, yet marry by her mid 30s to start producing offspring, that is a small five-year time frame. As a dating coach for women, I consider this social wisdom a sorry state and the wrong way to approach finding the right romantic partner.

To adhere to these social standards, women in their 20s often toss away perfectly good matches because they are "not ready" to settle down. Then, as they approach their 30s, the stress of finding a suitable partner in a hurry gives birth to complaints about a lack of "good men." This lament grows ever louder as they approach 40 and beyond.

Lori Gottlieb, author of Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough admits to having lived through this herself. A few great guys got kicked to the curb, with her thinking there would be many more wonderful men and plenty of time. Panic set as she closed in on 40 and she decided to have a baby on her own rather than miss out on her fertility. Keep reading ...

More marriage advice from YourTango:

Article contributed by

Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan

Dating Coach

The Dating Coach for Women Over 40

Get my free book 7 Dire Dating Mistakes Women Make That Keep You Single here.
Author of MANifesting Mr. Right, Why Can't I Find Love and How to Sizzle Vs. Fizzle Online

Location: Milford, CT
Credentials: CCC, MBA
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support
Other Articles/News by Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan:

This Batman Day, Find Your Caped Crusader

By

Today has officially been named Batman Day because it is the 75th Anniversary of the beloved DC Comic hero. Do you remember watching Batman on TV? A big Kabam...Zap...Pow! to you! As a dating coach for women over 40, I started wondering…is that how you feel about dating? Every time you meet and are disappointed by a new man, you get the ... Read more

Don't Bring Your Ex On A First Date

By

You go out to meet a man for the first time who you connected with online. This is "date zero" and is really a chemistry check to see if there is potential with this new person. Hopefully, things will go well, he'll like you (and you'll like him), and you'll get a second date. Since date zero is all about first impressions and you only ... Read more

The 7 Things You Never Want To Say On A First Date

By

For single women looking for the right man, getting through the first date is your first priority. You only get one chance to make a great first impression, so you want to be at your very best. This is your shot at being a delightful, alluring, feminine presence and making your date feel comfortable and at ease. Men choose women who make them feel good about ... Read more

See More

GET MORE ARTICLES LIKE THIS IN YOUR INBOX!

Sign up for our daily email and get the stories everyone is talking about.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

FROM AROUND THE WEB