Don’t Let Love Passover You This Spring
Don't be shy about expressing your desire to find a relationship.
getty In the Jewish faith, Passover is a time of great celebration as people come together to remember being freed from slavery in ancient Egypt. If you're Jewish and single, this is a great opportunity to meet new people because religious holidays provide the chance to socialize.
Any social outing helps you expand the number of people you know. As a dating coach, I often discuss the various ways to meet new people and how to find love. You can meet single men through online dating, singles groups, singles dances, speed dating, matchmakers, and blind dates.
Of course, you could meet a single man anywhere including work, school, through friends, and even at the grocery store. But I tell my dating coaching clients to rely on these six methods because you'll meet a lot more single men than you will through every day life.
According a study, 19 percent of couples met through friends, and I’m thinking that also includes family. The Passover holiday offers a chance to get fixed up by people in your social circles. I recommend you try these four dating tips to line up blind dates for the spring:
1. Ask your family if they know anyone.
Even though you might not relish the idea of your family prying into your love life, remember each person knows about 250 people. That means a large Passover Seder with 20 attendees provides access to 5,000 people or more.
Of course they aren't all single, age appropriate or looking for love. But there could be a few who meet your romantic criteria given the sheer size of the group.
Some of my clients worry that asking to be fixed up makes them look desperate. Nothing could be further from the truth. To bring this up and appear confident, use this script: "Things are really good right now in my life and I'm ready to share with someone special. Do you know any single guys who might be right for me?" A request like this is seen as very positive since you are stating things are currently good in your life.
I have personal success with this, since I met my husband by meeting his sister. I was out socializing and talking about dating with a group of women. Maureen (a friend of a friend) and I started chatting, and after 30 minutes she suggested I meet her brother.
Being open to talking about my desire for love and blind dates sure did the trick for me. Let me encourage you to be open to the idea that someone at your family’s Seder table might know a nice guy for you.
2. Go to a friend's Passover Seder.
To mix things up, go to a Seder at a friend's house on the second night of Passover. By doing this, you extend your social circles even more, opening up to a new group of contacts and the 250 people they know.
Don't be shy about this — many people are thrilled to hook singles up. It's a mitzvah (good deed)!
3. Attend a Seder at a temple.
Some synagogues have a Seder for the congregation, which is yet another opportunity for blind dates. Once you practice your request to be fixed up, you can start to share it with even more people. You might be bold and try another temple in your area instead of your own.
4. Volunteer for community outreach.
Your synagogue or another in the area might be organizing some form of social outreach. Whether it's a food drive or some other type of program, offer to help. You never know who you might meet when you help others, and at the very least you know you have made a contribution to the community.
Your willingness to ask for help and talk about how to find love can be one of the best strategies to meet the right man. Don't hold back or be shy about it. The yearning for partnership is a basic human need. The more people who know, the better your chances of finding "The One."
For over seventeen years, Ronnie Ann Ryan has been a love and dating coach for women who has helped thousands of successful single women with hot careers (but a chilly love life) find lasting love. Listen to her free audio program 12 First Date Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances For Love.