This week another celebrity couple announced that they are getting divorced — Robin Thicke and Paula Patton. Why does it seem like every week another celebrity couple is headed for divorce? With the divorce rates hovering at about 50%, is it that hard to believe that celebrities also fall into the statistics? Marriage takes work and being in the public eye brings more attention to your relationship. If the wedding ring is off or if the couple is photographed and they are not smiling or holding hands, the speculation is that there is trouble in paradise.
When it comes down to Hollywood couples, why is it so hard to stay together? Is it their difficult schedules and and temptation? How do you go from one day being on the cover of a tabloid magazine as the sexiest couple alive and then next stop on the road to splitsville?
Marriage is a journey and relationships go through different stages along the way — kids, work, and everyday stress in life will have an effect on your relationship. If you're not putting in the effort, before you know it the relationship winds up on the back burner. No matter which way you look at it, the best relationships are between two people who are willing to grow, help, and nurture each other through the years.
With that said, there are 3 levels in all growing relationships:
Level 1: All About Me!
You guessed it — it comes down to me and what am I getting in return? The only way a partner is happy is if you are doing something for them. Why bother being in a relationship at this level when the focus of each partner is themselves first?
Level 2 – I Will Do This For You As Long As You Do Something For Me
This is where each partner will give as long as they receive something in return. Sounds like a recipe for a disaster, doesn't it?
Level 3 — You Put Your Partner First
This comes down to unconditional love and giving without expecting anything in return. At some point in our relationships we have probably experienced all 3 levels; however the question to ask yourself is what level are you playing at now? What are you willing to put in a relationship and how can you continually make your relationship a priority?
I think that ever since Robin Thicke performed Blurred Lines at the VMA's with Miley Cyrus, everything went downhill from there. We all know marriage is work and it seems like Robin and Paula had so much to work through that they weren't able to make it work. In order to avoid their fate, make sure both people in the relationship are committed to being at Level 3 together and at the same time.
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