You’re dating Mr. Wonderful. Things are going along really well and then he does "that really upsetting thing." You're mad. You're hurt. You're frustrated. You thought everything was going so well and you don't understand why he would do "that." If he were your employee, you would go to the Human Resources department (HR) and say you want to fire him.
HR is familiar with rocky situations. It's part of their job—they've been trained for it. And they've certainly seen their share of employee blow-ups. Therefore, HR would ask such questions as:
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- Did you clearly explain to him what was important to you?
- What did you have in place to ensure he did understand?
- Did you give him appropriate feedback along the way?
- Did you clearly tell him what you needed him to do differently?
If the answer to any of these is no, then HR would say you can't fire him today. They may even call the employee into their office and ask what happened. And, who knows? He might say something like:
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- I don't know what I did wrong.
- I thought I understood what she needed.
- It seems like I can't do anything right.
- The rules seem to keep changing.
At this point, HR would recommend you work with someone to help you lay out a plan to address each issue so this difficult situation can have a positive resolution. Keep reading...
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