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Where To Find Your 'Motivated To Marry' Partner

Look for activities where the people you want to find are in the majority.

My philosophy from a very young age is to go where the guys are. I was lucky to
have an older brother and I used to play tennis, biked, ran track (the girls practiced
with the guys) and skied. I met a lot of guys during that time and always had a
boyfriend since the 9th grade because I liked doing what they did. I met my college
boyfriend on the tennis courts!

The following activities are where women, as a whole, would be in the minority and I
recommend them to seek out to meet men:

1. Anything related to sports!

A. A s an participant:
- Bicycling groups
- Tennis ladders and clinics
- Ski clubs
- Running clubs
- Rollerblading
- Coed-softball teams or games
- Coed-volleyball teams or games
- Racquetball leagues and ladders
- Golf clubs
- Kickball teams
- Ultimate Frisbee
- Coed Soccer leagues
- Bowling leagues
- Working out with weights at the gym

B. A s a spectator:
- Sports bars with viewing of basketball, football, baseball games. (Especially March madness!)
- Going to college or professional sports games: baseball, basketball, football, soccer and hockey.

2. Internet Dating Sites:
Since guys see the internet as time and money efficient, this is a good way to connect with guys. Also, going in chat rooms with any subject you are interested in may
be a good way to connect.

3. For the more intellectually oriented:
- Bridge groups
- Chess groups
- Discussion groups on topic of male interest

4. For those more politically oriented:
- Fundraising activities
- Local politics

5. Religious institutions
- Religious study classes
- Weekly services
- Social events or speakers at your religious institution

For men, I recommend you go where the women are mostly likely to be. Women
partake in these various activities and where women usually outnumber men!

1. Arts and Crafts classes:
- Knitting
- Pottery
- Fine arts: watercolors and oil painting
- Jewelry making

2. Cooking classes
- Cooking schools
- County classes
- Gourmet food demonstrations (ie. Whole Foods)

3. Exercise classes
- Body conditioning classes
- Yoga
- Step aerobics
- Stretch class
- Kickboxing
- Pilates

4. Theatre Groups

5. Movie groups, ie. the Film Society

6. The Arts
- Concerts
- Museum events in the evening and weekends

7. Easy hiking groups

8. Book clubs

9. Dance classes and dances

10. Wine tasting events

11. College Alumni events

12. Tour groups: cruises and bus tours

13. Support groups

14. Book signings and authors speaking at book stores

15. Volunteer organizations

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.