Top Ten Dating Red Flags For Divorced Women
By Cindy Holbrook. Posted on .
Your divorce is over and you are ready to get out there and start dating again. You are both excited about the possibilities and terrified that you will find a loser. Chances are you will meet some wonderful – and not so wonderful – men during your journey. Your responsibility is to know exactly what you want in a man and to keep your eyes open for potential red flags.
Dating Red Flag #1 – Is He Wealthy?
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He spends money frivolously and likes to flash wads of money. He drives an expensive, fast fancy car, wears a rolex and expensive jewelry, clothing and other accessories. He lavishes you at the finest of restaurant and is always bragging about how much money he has.
Questions to ask yourself:
- What does he do for a living?
- Does he own his home?
- Could he be pretending he is wealthy to impress you?
Dating Red Flag #2 – Is He Broke?
He conveniently disappears when the check arrives and leaves you to pay it. He never offers to pay for anything. Everywhere he takes you is somewhere free. He expects you to drive and never offers to pay for gas. He tends to pop-up at your house every evening for dinner.
Questions to ask yourself:
- Does he work?
- Where is he living?
- Is he just a cheapskate?
Dating Red Flag #3 – What Does He Do?
You have been dating for a month or two and he has yet to articulate what he does for a living. He appears nice enough, but conveniently avoids answering personal questions about himself. He may say things like, “I am a jack of all trades,” “I make money in a variety of ways” or “It’s complicated.”
Questions to ask yourself:
- What is he hiding?
- Is he married?
- Is he doing something illegal?
Dating Red Flag #4 – How Many Mamas’?
Your dating someone a little older. He admits to having several children with various women.
Questions to ask yourself:
- Were the mama’s pregnant at the same time?
- Is he actively involved in the children’s lives?
- Are you willing to put up with the drama? (especially if there are young children involved.)
Dating Red Flag #5 – Where Does He Live?
You just find out the man you have been dating is living with his mom or in his sister’s basement. Another scenario could be that he crashes with various friends or lives with a couple of women.
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Questions to ask yourself:
- What are the circumstances?
- How long has he been living like this?
- Does he have a solid plan to venture out on his own?
Dating Red Flag #6 – He Said What?
