12 New Year's Resolutions For Divorced Moms


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2013 is all about YOU!

Are you divorced? The new year is a perfect opportunity to start fresh. Here's how:

1. Take control of your life. Don't your ex to push your buttons. Every time you react the way your ex wants you to, you are allowing him to control you. Learn to stay calm and be in be in command of of what you say and how you act. It really is possible to stop letting your ex push your buttons.

2. Trust your own judgment. Listen to your own inner voice. It is there to guide you in the right direction. As women, we have often spent so much time focusing on other people's wants and needs that we have lost sight of who we are and have lost the ability to trust in ourselves.

3. Choose to be happy. Look for the abundance of opportunities around you. Happiness really is a choice. Albeit you might need to make that choice a thousand times in a day, it is a choice. Change thoughts of disparity to thoughts that make you happy, such as your smiling child or your rambunctious pet.

4. Listen to your children and to focus on their desires. Listen to every word your child speaks to you. Be 100 percent present and acknowledge he or she is important. Your child will feel more loved, accepted and at peace. He will feel secure in the knowledge that you will take care of all of his needs. Learn parenting tips for divorced women.

5. Communicate more effectively with your child(ren)'s father. Put your child's needs and well-being above the hurt and anger you feel towards your ex. Your child has the right to love and to be loved by both of her parents. Continually ask yourself, "Do I love my child more than I hate my ex?"

6. Focus on happy memories.  Focus on happy memories of your past and learn from the unhappy ones. Figure out what lessons you can learn about yourself from the broken relationship. Learn from them and then put the unhappy memories behind you. When you focus on the past, you are reliving all of the painful memories. Keep reading ...

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Cindy Holbrook

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Find out where you are in the recovery process, visit DivorceRecoveryCompass.com now. And Discover how you can quickly grieve the death of your marriage and the loss of your hopes and dreams, so that you can move forward with Peace, Confidence and Clarity as you discover the magnificent woman within!

Wishing you a life full of Peace and Happiness!

Cindy Holbrook


Location: Ridgecrest, CA
Credentials: CPC
Specialties: Divorce/Divorce Prevention
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