Being cheated on is the most painful experience a person can ever have. It can hurt you very deeply. No medication, not even the strongest painkillers, can take away this kind of pain after infidelity.
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Your partner is asking for forgiveness. He or she has shown genuine remorse for the things that have happened. Your partner is sorry for the hurt that he or she has caused you and is asking for a second chance.
You, being truly and deeply in love with your partner, you are willing to give them a chance that they are asking for. The two of you can start anew and build a stronger and better relationship. But this does not necessarily mean that the pain and the hurt have already gone away. The painful feelings are still there, you just do not want it to come out since you think it is for the best to forgive and to forget. Unfortunately after infidelity, this is not always the case. And you, keeping all those feelings inside, may end up doing more damage in the process of rebuilding the relationship.
In rebuilding your relationship after the affair, it is critical that you get pass this stage. It is very important that you eliminate these hurtful thoughts so that you and your partner can really start out "fresh". How do you do it? Here are 3 easy ways to eliminate the hurtful thoughts of being cheated.
Imagine clamping a water hose while the nozzle is switched on. What do you think will happen if you suddenly unclamp it? That's right. The water will come bursting out at a very strong pressure. This is just the same thing with your hurtful feelings. The more you keep it inside the more it will be bubbling up inside you and can become dangerous. And when the time comes that you can't hold it in anymore, everything will come bursting out.
A good approach to this is to open up to a person. Share your thoughts and your feelings to somebody you really trust like your parents or your best friend. Doing this will help you unload these hurtful and painful feelings inside of you.
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Sometimes after infidelity you may need the help of a professional. You can ask your therapists or counselors to help you through this painful time. When talking to them, do not shy away with the things that you say. Be willing to give it your all and pour out all those negative emotions. Remember that they are there to help you and not to criticize you.
The thought that your partner has cheated on you can really be very difficult to swallow. And even if you think you can manage to swallow it you would only be fooling yourself. Some people by doing this think they can move on with their lives if they surpress all the negative emotions and get them self to believe it never happened. You can try to fool yourself but you can't truly fool your heart. For as long as can't accept the fact that it actually happened, you will feel the pain and the hurt over and over again. But how can you accept such a thing did actually happen when all it gives you is anguish.