Marriage is challenging enough. Everyone can use a tip or two to keep things fresh, alive, passionate, and connected! After connecting with thousands of women and men on my Facebook Page, here are the best ways to keep your relationship vibrant:
1. Don't give up the newness of your relationship.
As relationships mature, couples tend to forget that they are men and women first, and spouses/significant others second. Effort is required to keep things fresh. Never lose sight of the fact that as a relationship grows, you are left with a friendship... so start and stay friends as well as lovers.
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2. Recognize that you aren't able to change the other person... they have to do that on their own.
So often, people try to mold/change their significant others into what they wish/want them to be. That approach is destined for failure. You can't change anyone... they have to want to change and grow themselves. You can only control how you act you can only control how you act/react to any issues that they present.
3. Make sure they earn your respect and long-term love.
Far too often, once the courtship phase concludes, men drop back from putting in as much effort... and women allow it. To counter this, men need to keep their effort level high... and women need to not allow a man's halfway effort to serve as acceptable.
4. Keep your strength, your individuality, and your self-esteem up-front-and-center.
A relationship is made up of two people, and those people have their own wants and needs—both inside and outside of the relationship. It's critical to keep their own interests and wants top-of-mind. Compromise might be good in a relationship, but not when you compromise who you are and/or what you really want out of your life.
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5. Don't settle for second-best.
If the other person in your relationship refuses to grow with you or address what you both need, don't settle. Life is far too short. You should be with someone that enjoys you and treats you as a treasure, not as an obligation or duty.
6. Great Sex
Sex isn't just the physical act... it's a closeness... a trust... the personification of passion and sharing. It can be as romantic, or as passionate, or as... err... bondage-infused as the couple wants... but sharing one's physical self with the other is critical for most relationships (there are exceptions, of course). Being open, vulnerable, and trusting is an important component of a healthy sex life. Don't let passion drift away — and remember that passion exists outside of the bedroom. :)