Dear Instagram "Models - Why are you selling your vagina?

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Dear Instagram "Models - Why are you selling your vagina?

Dear THOSE Young Women:

​I gotta tell you straight. You might be beautiful. You might be built. You might love your body... and that's great. Seriously... I'm happy for you (no sarcasm). In today's fast-food, overindulged, carbohydrate-addicted world, maintaining a hot figure is challenging. However... let's not kid ourselves. You can look in the mirror and feel proud of your body. You can walk down the street and receive looks and compliments on your beauty. That's not the reason you're on Instagram... and it certainly isn't the reason you're posing half-naked.


Posing in a lace bra and a G-string on Instagram doesn't give the perception that you a "lingerie model"... it makes you look cheap and easy. The psychology behind your behavior is simple enough: You're suffering from a lack of self-esteem and are looking externally to make yourself feel good about you. But you're kidding yourself. It's called self-​esteem because it emanates from the self.


And while we're talking, let's make something crystal clear: What you're doing isn't modeling. Victoria Secret models pose on a professional photo set to sell lingerie and associated products for a company. In short: They get paid for modeling... they don't bare their Pink parts dancing to Usher under a florescent bathroom light next to a Cars 2 shower curtain with a pouty duckface, giving their ass away for free to random lurkers/stalkers/pedophiles. ​​Those women are working... what the hell are you​ doing?


A reality check: Any picture of a viewable nipple/vagina will get lots of views online. You showing yours doesn't make you special... it makes you a soft-core porn queen without a paycheck. Nothing wrong with that if that's what you are hoping to achieve... but stop fooling yourself into thinking that the "likes" and "shares" you get are because they like you. ​They like the show you are giving them... they don't care who you are.


​My advice: If you want to be a model, DO IT! Put together a portfolio, pay your dues (hopefully without a visit to the proverbial casting couch), and follow your dream. Otherwise, you are shaking your ass for someone else's cheap thrill, while pretending it boosts your self-esteem as you get views on your pics.


Look... we get it. You're beautiful... but go get dressed. Stop selling your body for a virtual "like". You are cheapening women everywhere and attracting exactly the wrong guy (the one who only wants what you are effectively giving away — your vagina)... and then you wonder why all men are dogs. Correction: The men you are attracting might be dogs... because you are offering yourself as a bone.

 

Of course, this is just my opinion... I could be wrong.

 

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