“I hate him.”
“I love him.”
“I can’t get him out of my head.”
“I want to move on but he is in my mind night and day.”
“Maybe he is the one and I should wait until he changes his mind.”
Is this your inner dialogue?
Why is it so excruciating to move on after a relationship ends? How do you know it is time to move on? What if it really isn’t over? What is this is the love of your life and you are blowing it. When will your relationship sabotage end?
In my case, a whirlwind romance with a highly attractive man caused me to morph into a mindless I-must-have-him-no-matter-what machine. I thought about him constantly and while he showed great interest in me at first….special emphasis on ‘at first’, things deteriorated way before I was ready.
I couldn’t stop looking at my phone, checking to make sure it was on and cherishing the messages he left me. I printed the late night Instant Messages, rearranged my life to suit his schedule….I know I don’t need to go on!
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Even though the fiery chemistry that happened in the beginning started to fizzle out after 2 or 3 months, I refused to acknowledge the truth. My love saboteur was firmly in control
Then, he disappeared. Gone.
The first couple of weeks, I held out hope that he would miss me so desperately that he would call, beg forgiveness and sweep me off my feet again.
Two more weeks and I was ready to be done with him but I kept wondering what I had done wrong. Wasn’t it real? The chemistry was real, wasn’t it? Miserable, I limped through my days unable to keep my mind off of him.
After two months of moping, whining and crying, I got tired of myself. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired and set out to change my mindset. The techniques I used have now become a tried and true system for saying goodbye to that ghost lover (my term for the man who left and the dream of what might have developed with him). Follow these steps and you will get yourself back into the driver’s seat. Good Luck! I know you can do this!!
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How To Move On From Broken Love :
Key #1 Face The Facts
Ok, this is no fun, but facing the fact that you are hooked on this guy is the first and most important step. Yes, you feel foolish. No, you don’t want to give up on him. But how are you feeling? Empowered? Strong? Probably not.