There's certainly a lot of buzz being created by the reunion of Rihanna and Chris Brown. There are always two sides of every story and this one is no different. It's interesting. There are various perspectives and opinions being shared out there by family, friends and fans about whether their getting back together is a good or bad decision. This is a classic case of Ying and Yang. 3 Ways 'Love' Benefits Your Health
Let's explore the pros and cons about the views and challenges this young celebrity couple are facing as they go through this very public reunion full of controversy.
- Domestic violence:
So, we know Chris was charged and convicted of domestic assault about three years ago. Chris Brown admitted guilt to assaulting Rihanna and pictures surfaced three years ago of Rihanna's face to showcase the incident. Domestic abuse happens every day, and it is reported that within a community, there is approximately one in five women that have experienced domestic abuse (that have been reported).
What does this mean? The two sides here are, in one case, Rihanna shouldn't return to an abusive partner. On the other hand, she loves him enough to forgive him and give him a second chance. Chris — who admitted guilt, served his sentence and was a model probationer — recognized his wrong and was forgiven. Why should he be continually reminded of something he did in the past when he's made amends, and more importantly, has been forgiven by the person he wronged? A Domestic Violence Survivor's Advice For Rihanna
Ultimately, it is Rihanna's decision and I'm not convinced this is a bad choice either. Many couples who go through this type of situation can and do survive with the willingness to work on their challenges, get proper help and support and it seems they certainly do have supportive friends and family amongst the "haters."
- Being role models:
Rihanna and Chris are certainly public figures and I'm sure they have their "followers." But, the criticism saying that Rihanna's decision to get back together will influence the young girls or women of this world returning to their abusive partners is "good", in my mind is just gossip and something negative to focus on. Seriously, if your child, friend or anyone is making decisions based on what someone else is deciding doing, than they need to have a check-up from the neck up. Therapy Is Not Working! Now What?
Our moral values are instilled in us through parenting and education ... not by pop stars. One positive that I can see here is a strong, independent, young woman that is making decisions that she feels are right for her situation, based on all of the facts and what she knows about herself and her partner.