Manipulation is often used in relationships to see how much your lover really cares.
Two institutions gathered a group of researchers from the University or Western Sydney and Singapore Management University to reveal "manipulation is a way to test a partner's love." Although men and women use a number of ways to test their partners' love with manipulation. The study also identified 58 various types of manipulation tactics women commonly used to test their partners.
I personally don't find this study to be surprising at all. Whether you want to admit it or not, especially when you are in a relationship, you will use some form of manipulation to "get what you want." You may not be aware of your ability to manipulate, or the fact that you are manipulating your partner, but studies say that you do, when you want your partner to do something for you, or you want to "test" his/her affections.
Let's first understand manipulation. It is defined as the act of "manipulating." So let's go to the root definition. To "manipulate:"
ma•nip•u•late verb (used with object), ma•nip•u•lat•ed, ma•nip•u•lat•ing.
1. to manage or influence skillfully, especially in an unfair manner: to manipulate people's feelings.
2. to handle, manage, or use, especially with skill, in some process of treatment or performance: to manipulate a large tractor.
3. to adapt or change (accounts, figures, etc.) to suit one's purpose or advantage.
So by definition, manipulation seems to have a negative tone about it. You can actually "skillfully" influence someone through some form of "unfair manner or practice" to change someone's feelings or get them to take actions you want. This is pretty powerful stuff ladies!
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