Some people are so in love with each other when they first meet, that they don’t have to think how to make each other happy and deepen the relationship. It seems to happen as of by itself: no effort at all. As a matter of fact you can’t wait to spend quality time with each other and talk a lot. You do so much eye gazing, naturally, that when you go to a restaurant to eat, you forget to order food until you are reminded.
Unfortunately, after the first period of falling in love is over (usually between 6 months and 2 years) the newness that created that high seems to have fallen into habits. You think you know everything about your lover and start paying less attention to each other.
Now we enter into the phase of the relationship when it requires work to keep it fresh and alive and, unfortunately, most of us prefer to think that we are so connected that we can concentrate on our career instead.
This is the first mistake. Let’s look at an analogy: how would it be if you got into partnership with someone that you like and trust and so you stop paying attention to the business. How successful would you imagine the business to become?
Logic tells us that if we don’t keep working on our partnership business we are not going to succeed.
Well, in a love relationship it is similar. We need to focus on keeping our fire burning and Tantra teaches us how to do it. Here are some of the things we need to continue paying attention to for the love relationship to continue to blossom and deepen:
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