5 Wedding Planning Pointers For A Successful Marriage

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5 Wedding Planning Pointers For A Successful Marriage [EXPERT]
If you can plan your wedding well as a couple, you can likely live happily ever after.

Planning a wedding is a huge, laborious job, and most experts say that how you plan your wedding can predict the fate of your marriage. So, here are five wedding planning pointers to ensure your marriage will last happily ever after:

1. Plan it together. This is probably one of the stickiest traps couples fall into when it comes to planning their weddings. For example, the bride spends more time planning the wedding with her mother and leaves her future husband on the sidelines. 5 Steps To A Happier Relationship

Think of it this way: Are you marrying your mother or your husband? Setting the marital stage by bonding with your mother instead of your future spouse will immediately erode the foundation of the marriage.

This doesn't guarantee that you and your fiancé will always agree on everything when it comes to the wedding. Just make sure to always present a united front to your families in order to set healthy boundaries moving forward.

2. Don't make assumptions. Just because he doesn't take the initiative to inquire about how the wedding plans are going does not mean that he is not interested in participating with you. Instead of assuming, try asking if he wants to hear about the latest updates. Unless he flat out says "no," my guess is that he'll be very interested to hear about the wedding plans. After all, it's his wedding too!

If you need his help with any of the planning, don't assume he can read your mind or understand the intimate intricacies of planning a wedding the way you do. Be smart and delegate tasks to him when necessary. You might as well get into practice for running a household together. Not assuming false meaning to any of his actions will always be a great practice to how you communicate later as a married couple.

3. Compromise. If allowing your husband to have any say in the flavor of wedding cake is something that makes you break into a sweat, it's time to wake up and understand that there is absolutely nothing perfect about a wedding, your marriage or the world. If your control issues are something that is already causing friction in the wedding planning, then take comfort in knowing that at least someone from above is sending you a clue that it's time to work through the control issue for the sake of your future marriage. 6 Signs You're Married To A Bully

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Carin Goldstein, MFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles as well as the witty writer of Be the Smart Wife where she writes about the trials and tribulations of how to naviagate through your marriage. Sign up for Be the Smart Wife bi-weekly posts and connect with Carin on facebook and twitter. If you live in the Los Angeles area and are interested in learning more about Carin's psychotherapy services, visit her website at caringoldstein.com.

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