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An Open Letter To The Man Who's Fighting To Destroy My Walls: Thank You

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You have shown me what a good guy is by your continuous efforts to get through my outer shell.

Seriously, a huge thank you for believing in me and taking a chance on me. You truly have no idea how much it means to me. And you need to know that I notice and recognize it.

I've been given up on. I've questioned my worth because I've been burned in the past. I have been left for dead. And you make every effort to make me believe all guys aren't the same.

I am starting to have faith that there are good people out there and not everyone is capable of causing the pain and hurt I have experienced. You have instilled the slightest bit of hope for myself, in love, and in relationships, in general.

You have shown me what a true friend can be and what a decent guy looks like. In a world full of deceit, it's refreshing to see someone for who they are without a mask.

You won't let me push you away. You recognize that pushing you away is my defense because I'm scared. Scared of being hurt again and experiencing the emotional turmoil I have come to know all too well.

You go out of your way to let me know you're thinking about me. To let me know that I mean something to you and that I am important. And you know I try to brush it off as if it's not that big of a deal because I am afraid to fall for someone only to be stabbed in the heart.

But slowly, the walls are coming down piece by piece. I have you to thank for that. 

You go out of your way to be there for me, no matter how big or small the issue. Because you know how alone I've been in dealing with life on life's terms. You know I've been trying to hold it together and stay strong.

And you're still here. Doing as much as you can to help me feel again. To help me not be afraid of taking a chance.

When we're together, you are more concerned about my comfort and well-being than your own. You go out of your way to make sure I am okay.

You are doing everything in your power and control to destroy these heavy and high walls I've built around my heart and my life. And I haven't had the chance to truly thank you for your continuous efforts to break them down.

Your persistence does not go unnoticed. Your efforts are greatly appreciated. I am really glad you have stuck around because you have many other options but you see me as important enough to fight to break these walls down.

Thank you for taking the time to get to know me and going at a pace that's comfortable for me. Thank you for your kindness and patience in your attempts to break down years and years of bricks one on top of the other.

An enormous thank you for making progress in breaking down my walls. It's not an easy thing to do, but you continue to show me by the little compliments and daily efforts that you see my worth.

Thank you for loving me.

Thank you for helping me see the good in you and others. And again, thank you for showing me that I don't need every wall I built around myself. That it's okay to be vulnerable. I am not nearly as afraid as I initially was and I owe that to you.

Brittney Lindstrom is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Rehabilitation Counselor. 

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